@13xi5: Is there anyway around not orgasming unless there is stimulation of the clitoris?
I have never experienced an orgaism during sexual intercourse without some stimulation of my clitoris whether its a vibrating ring or just masturbation. I’ve came before and everything just never orgasimed. I know there is a large percentage of women who don’t orgasm, but I’m just hoping I’m not doomed to this. Is it true that most young women don’t experience orgasims through just vaginal intercourse. . . is it something that comes over time?
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Answer by drankurbhardwaj
most of the women never orgasm by vaginal intercourse they always require clitoral stimulation ,
The whole clitoris vs. vagina orgasm debate is very controversial. Most women orgasm with clitoral stimulation. Some women have orgasms by having their G-Spot stimulated. The G-Spot is located in your vagina.
Now, the controversies:
1. Many question the existence of the G-Spot.
2. Sigmund Freud mistakenly labeled clitoral orgasms “immature”, and vaginal orgasms “mature”.
3. Some say that even if the G-Spot truly exists and leads to orgasm, it is, in essence, still a clitoral orgasm because these advocates believe that when you stimulate the G-Spot, you are stimulating your clitoris through the vaginal wall.
If you haven’t already found your g-spot, ask your boyfriend to stimulate you with his finger inside of you, putting pressure on the upper/top wall of your vagina. The g-spot has been described as “bean shaped” or “like a rabbit’s nose”. It is often easier to discover the location your g-spot for the first time after you have already had an orgasm. Try to stimulate yourself by putting pressure on the upper/top wall of your vagina. If you find the sensitive area on the roof of your vagina, rubbing the area may increase the sensitivity, making it more prominent.
I myself was never able to feel a “bump” in my ex-girlfriend’s vagina, but I knew where the area was, and it gave her wonderful orgasms. The g-spot is not very deep in the vaginal barrel. If you have a boyfriend, ask him to put his penis in just a little, maybe half-way, and ask him to press it onto the upper wall. Obviously, you can do the same thing by yourself or with a girlfriend using a dildo, vibrator, or a finger. Press, rub, or stroke on this sensitive area, on the top wall of your vagina, and you may have a g-spot orgasm.
For more information on the g-spot, there is an excellent book written by three doctors called, “The G-Spot and Other Sexual Discoveries”. Beverly Whipple and someone with the last name of “Perry” are two of the co-authors. The book states that the G-Spot orgasm causes the vagina to open in an “A-Frame” effect vs. the squeezing contractions of the vagina associated with a clitoral orgasm. It also discusses female ejaculation as a part of the G-Spot orgasm. My own ex-girlfriend never ejaculated in front of me, but my friend’s wife did it regularly with him. When they were dating and just starting to get intimate with each other, he was astonished to discover that she squirted when she “went over the edge”. This had never happened to her with her other partners.
If stimulating the G-Spot doesn’t work out for you, you may be able to achieve orgasm by INDIRECTLY stimulating your clitoris. You might consider this “cheating”, but you aren’t directly “touching it”. When you’re on the bottom, ask your boyfriend to “grind” in circles instead of just thrusting. You can also try “thrusting up” and grind against him yourself. Ask him to hold for little longer in the fully inserted position, to allow you to grind and push on him, to pleasure yourself at the deepest point of the thrust.
If you’re doing it doggie style, put a lot of pillows and bedding and comfy silky sheets together in a pile and make a mountain that you can mount. While he is thrusting behind you, you can “hump” or “grind” your little pleasure mound against the bedding mound you’ve constructed, to help you on your road to release.
If you are on the bottom with your legs wrapped behind his back, use the natural lever of your knee joint to pull your heels and feet into his back, pulling him toward you, to grind and guide him and yourself where you need the stimulation.
Good luck!
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