What is the etiquette for who should pay for the wedding album for the mothers of the bride and groom?

justwondering: What is the etiquette for who should pay for the wedding album for the mothers of the bride and groom?
My Mom (I am the bride) asked for a wedding album of pictures and even offered to pay for it. She helped with paying for part of the wedding so I wouldn’t take the money from her. My MIL didn’t help with anything towards the wedding and recently asked for an album. Would it be rude to ask her to pay for it or should we just buy one for her too? Thanks!

Answers and Views:

Answer by KD
No one is particular is responsible for buying anything for your wedding, except you and the groom. I would just make her a small album if you want to save money. Or put the pictures on disk and let her do with them as she wishes.

Answer by going crazy bride
It would only be rude if you told the MIL that you paid for your mothers and your not paying hers. It is none of her business if you want to give your mom a thank you gift for helping you out with the wedding. Now if your mil paid for the rehersal dinner i would sugesst it be nice to give her an album as a thank you for that.

We took my parents out for a nice dinner as a thank you and i never thought of it as being rude to my in laws at all.

Answer by I love my love
you’re supposed to give them albums as a wedding gift. you have to get a wedding gift for both sets of parents, and some people wait until they have their photos months after the wedding and have albums done then. if you didn’t already give the parents something at the rehearsal dinner, tell the mothers that their wedding gift is in progress and they will get the albums soon enough. it doesn’t have to be a big 10×10 like your own album, you can have smaller ones made for the parents.

Answer by melouofs
The couple pays for it and presents it as a gift to the mothers, normally.

Answer by nova_queen_28
There really is no etiquette on this, but I think it is only fair that if you are buying your Mom’s then you should probably buy his Mom’s as well — who helped pay really doesn’t come into play.

My husband & I ordered two albums – one for his mom & one for mine – and we gave them as gifts to our Moms.

Answer by Messykatt
There’s really no etiquette on this – it’s just personal situations. I guess for me it would depend on how supportive the MIL has been in general. If she’s not in a position to contribute to the wedding but has been overall supportive of the relationship, I’d get one for her. If she hasn’t been supportive, I’d either do a scaled down version of it or simply remind her that you’re short on money and she’ll need to purchase it.

Answer by JLO
I don’t feel like any parents should expect their children to pay for wedding albums. The album I’m getting for us is $ 500, I can’t imagine spending another $ 1000 on albums for our mothers! If anyone in our family wanted pictures, they had to pay for them themselves. I would never expect anyone to pay for mine if the situation was reversed.

However, if the albums you are getting aren’t more than a couple hundred dollars, it might be a nice gesture to give your MIL one also – but certainly don’t feel obligated.

Answer by Stephanie
There really is no etiquette. It’s up to your discretion if you want to give your parents and in-laws an album as a gift. If you don’t want to give it to your MIL as a gift. Let her know upfront how much it’s going to cost so that she doesn’t assume that you’ll be paying for it and can decide for herself it she wants to spend the money on the album.

Answer by Love
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