What does it mean when a guy forces his gambling problem on you?

Morgan R: What does it mean when a guy forces his gambling problem on you?
He’s a gambling addict, i fought with him a couple of times to stop poker but he never listens, he stops talking to me then he feels guilty back about it and starts talking to me again, but never stops poker. He knows it bothers me and whenever i ask him wts he doin, he says poker. Now he invited me on facebook to play poker with him. Why is he acting like this with me? What do i do to make him stop? Or at least, make him play less. Im so worried about him.

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Answer by septemberlushh
Cbf Answering lol nothing personal

Answer by guerrero82
just tell him again and then stop worrying about it

Answer by $h!tBird
because he’s an addict and since you’re in his life it would be easier for him if you were addicted to gambling too. or at least if you didn’t give him trouble about it.. because like any addiction, that’s what happens..
google gambling addiction

Answer by adrianne
You can’t control his gambling addiction. Nothing you say or do will change him. Cut your losses, as it were, and move on.

Answer by SimpleGirl
You can’t make him stop.
The end.

He is inviting you along to try to invite you into a big part of his life. But if you can’t stand it, try to go to a support group for yourself on how to deal with someone who has an addiction. These kinds of groups don’t tell you how to change them, but help you find your limit and how to not be codependent or enable them.

Answer by Meri
It means that he’s got problems worse than you can solve. If he is your husband, push him to see a counselor with you. If he is just a guy friend or a boyfriend it is time to find someone else.

You can’t change someone else’s addiction. You can simply choose whether or not you want to be close enough to them to have to deal with the fall out.

Answer by Amy S
Grow a spine and dump him, You cant help an addict- they have to help themselves and you deserve better. Do you really want to date a moron who puts gambling over you?

Answer by Fonz
It’s just like drugs to some people. I would get as far away from him as possible.

Answer by Gypsy Red
Gamblers Anonymous. They are there not only for gamblers but for the members of their families that are affected by their gambling.

Answer by Bearwithme
He is selfish and does not care about your needs. He has a serious problem and requires professional help. Get away from him and his problem or it will be your problem too!!

Answer by Noya
if your married it’s a pronlem if you’re only gf and bf break up with him.
If he stop talking to ya just because you ask him to stop and invites you for poker on facebook….. =/

Answer by sloth
he’s gonna start asking you for money soon

Answer by Grey
Excessive gambling is an addiction and like a drug addiction its a hard habit to kick. Try to get him to go to Gambling Anonymous or take him to a doctor to help him. In the end though if he is not willing to change himself you need to give him a choice. In one hand his precious poker in the other you.

Answer by Margrave
Sorry Morgan, gambling is an addictive behavior. You can learn about addictive behaviors in general by reading ‘I’ll Quit Tomorrow’ by Vernon Wells, MD, which is probably the easiest book that explains it.

If you want to help him, either put together an intervention via his friends, relatives, and a good counselor or drop him and tell him it is because he has a gambling problem.

Usually addicts have to hit some sort of ‘bottom’ before they surrender and get help, and losing you might do it for him. Or not.

Anyway, if you stay around, anyone who lives with or loves an addict also is subject to another disease called co-dependency.

So set up an intervention and see how that works. Or drop him for your health and, we hope, for his as well.

Answer by Gary B
NO ONE can FORCE anything on you. YOU always have the capability of refusing.

Which is what you ned to do now. Stop fighting. Tell him that there will be NO gambling, or you will leave him. And the next time it happens — leave him.

Gambling is a serious problem. Like smoking, drugs, and porno, it IS addictive. But if you two ever got married, then his addiction takes away the family income.

First, you don’t have enough money for food or gasoline. Next, they are repossessing your car. Finally, your house is up for foreclosure, or your being evicted from your apartment. And all the time HE is saying, “just one more time, Honey. This time I’ll hit it B-I-G!” But it neve happens.

But your boyfriend canNOT force this on you — you have to accept his problem and excuses. When YOU stop accepting it, either he will stop or he will be gone.

So you need to “grow a pair” and tell him exactly what is going to happen the next time you find him gambling, and then you need to “make it stick”. A Zero Tolerance policy — NO more gambling.

You should also look up Gamblers Anonymous, either on-line or in the phone book. If your state has a lottery system, they may also have gambling addiction information that may prove helpful.

Answer by JOSHUA B
you asking him to stop will not work if it as serious as you make it sound, if it is hurting you financially you need to get away and move on and let him deal with his own issues, don’t start gambling if your not comfortable with it, gambling is a serious addiction and i have seen it first hand ruin some peoples lives, so if you feel that you don’t want to deal with it run away don’t walk