What do you think of female friendship in theory and practice?

Rake: What do you think of female friendship in theory and practice?
The theory is that female friendship is supportive and nurturing. Do you find that is true in practice? Is this theory of female friendship (promoted by popular commercial “feminism”) itself based on sexist notions of what women are or should be?

Answers and Views:

Answer by Zippy
I’ve worked in many fields – and currently i’m in a ‘female dominated’ job.

It is nothing but backstabbing one another from my first day.

I wouldn’t be surprised one bit if I too get backstabbed now that I’ve been there a while… but as for ‘nurturing and supportive’ – that’s a joke.

Answer by Nultimatum
Sexist notions. My mam and dad will talk to anyone and help anyone out. I was in the shop other day and was short of change i asked a shopper behind me and he helped me out.

In war time everybody helped each other out. Soldiers fighting risk their lives for their comrades retreiving them from the battlefield. It’s a trait that is human instinctive.

You’ll also find women and men have best friends who are supportive but also can stab you in the back. But they say there is a lot of jealousy between women.

Answer by Stefanie Depefanie
Both my male and female friends are supportive and nurturing. The men I know are more likely to warn me off doing silly/dangerous things (and very useful it is indeed, to have such friends), the women I know are more likely to ask my about my feelings/perceptions.

Answer by KAL
I have found that adult female friendship CAN be supportive and nurturing, but only as long as it doesn’t take anything away from the giving party. Also, seeming to be supportive and nurturing is a good facade, and I find most women like putting up fronts to appear to be good when they really aren’t. I partially read someone’s comment before me about backstabbing. Back stabbing, lying and the underlying want/need to be a turncoat is more common than you’d think in female friendships. There’s a tremendous amount of jealousy amongst females, too.

Since I’ve been grown, every female friend I’ve had is quick to drop her friends for a man, then come back to rekindle the friendship when things don’t work out between them. I’m sure this is common for both sexes, but I believe women are worse than men because women, the older they get, fear being alone so much that they are willing to drop anything and everything to please the SO’s. I have seen that women will change everything about them selves to fit in with what the man likes/wants/needs, just so they don’t have to be alone. Men don’t change for women much, if at all, which makes them truer to them selves.

As for my married friends, when they were single, they were the types of friends as described in my first paragraph, but since getting married, they only seem to want me around when it’s convenient for them. During these few convenient times, everything is good until they feel they’re reeling me in too far and realize I may want or need more of their time than they’re willing to give outside of their spouse, then I have to put up with the standoffish attitude, the wishy-washy answers when I suggest lunch/dinner dates, etc.

It’s all a game and it’s completely ridiculous. I much prefer male friendship and always have because I know exactly what I’m going to get from the very beginning. Men are prone to tiptoe around my feelings at first, but when I ask for the truth, I get it. Once they know how thick skinned I am, I get the truth from there on in. There’s no female candycoating, lying so they look better, no jealousy, no alterior motives, unless of course it’s sexual, and men don’t typically drop their friends when they enter a new relationship.

I’m making an edit to add that the females I know are better friends to men because they need approval and attention from the opposite sex.

Answer by Mabel B
OK, well I am female and out of all my female friends there is only 1 who I trust 100%.

What does that say????