What do you think of a father who sleeps with his 14 year old daughter in bed almost every day?

Na Na: What do you think of a father who sleeps with his 14 year old daughter in bed almost every day?
What do you think of a father who sleeps with his 14 year old daughter in bed almost every day since she was a baby? He does not abuse the 14 year old. Her mother does not object, because the mother thinks she is a good father. The 14 year old think she has the best father in the world, but still likes her father to sleep with her almost every day. She has a closer relation ship with her father than her mother.

Answers and Views:

Answer by Baby 2: Due 10-9-08
I still think that it should be ended. It is inappropriate.

Answer by Erika H
ewww not healthy at all

Answer by paperclip
Not my thing but as long as all the parties involve do not object and there is nothing bad going on, It is none of my business.

Answer by anonymous
NOT GOOD

Answer by judo
I’d rather tell you what I think of the daughter…she is probably screaming inside.

Answer by Archer2000
From a societal perspective, that should end.

Why would the 14 year old change her opinion of her father if she slept in her own bed?

The mother is married to this man and is his partner in life. Both parents should be caring for the daughter to set good examples for a life that she will lead on her own when she becomes an adult.
Right now, it sounds like he is emotionally crippling her by keeping her so close she will never know what it is to have an independent thought.

That is just sad.

Answer by ashley r
that is not healthy mentally… for either of them. What IS ok about that?

Answer by Natasha
she seems very clingy and the father should put a stop to it. as you said there is nothing going on but this is unhealthy for the child and can lead to problems with male figures later on in life for her and may even cause trouble with with child services if someone reports this they may look into it just to be on the safe side and that can be confusing and heartbreaking for the whole family. it’s good that she is close with her father and him to her but there are other things they can do together.

Answer by wondering
sounds like somebody wants to take mommy’s place as lady of the house. grown men wake up with erections that are unmistakable. this behavior inappropriate on so many levels..

Answer by tony
Yes i think it’s time for him to put an end to that behavior , it maybe innocent now !!

Answer by Shana
My dad share a bed if we watch a movie until late or something. It’s nice to cuddle and just be held. I wouldn;t want it every night though. I’m 12.

Answer by Little Francis
PEDO
STRANGER DANGER

…

LOBSTER!!!

Answer by Tiff
I think that it’s a bad thing for an adult to be sleeping in the same bed as a 14 year old. If I had a 14 year old or even 4 year old her father wouldn’t be sleeping in the same bed as her.

Answer by Daniel
well i would say its fine but if he wakes up with morning wood we might have a little problem

Answer by luditess
That ain’t right.
My son slept in my bed from when he was a baby and there was a definite change in feeling appropriate or not. That happened when he was about 8 or 9.
He always had his own bed but sometimes just wanted to sleep in my bed, presumably to feel secure and loved.
It’s sad to lose that intimacy but, as a parent, it should be instinctive that that is unhealthy, inappropriate and just plain weird to sleep with your kid at 14, ESPECIALLY of different genders, ESPECIALLY father/daughter.

Answer by Hannah
If she only slept with him occasionally when she was upset, scared, or had a nightmare or something, that would be one thing. But a 14 year old shouldn’t be sleeping with her parents every single night. It’s not so much that it’s “wrong” (as long as they aren’t doing anything inappropriate while sleeping together) but she needs to be able to sleep on her own. What is she going to do in 4 or 5 years when she has to move out? Her dad can’t sleep with her when she’s off at college, and she could end up having a lot of problems in the future if she doesn’t learn to be a little more independent.

Answer by *HiS WiFey*
I think thats kinda weird….maybe their culture is different and they dont see it that way.

Answer by B
Even if he’s not abusing her, it’s not good. It’s causing dependency.

Answer by Justice For All
I would report it to Child Protective Services, whether or not there was any obvious sexual activity taking place. The father (and yes, the mother too as she sees nothing wrong with this) need to take some parenting classes to learn about boundaries and separation issues. This is highly inappropriate behavior that will lead to separation issues between father and daughter, and will probably cause the daughter to have long term difficulties with men. Take care.