What are some better ways to say you “hate” something without using that word?

marbarlvr: What are some better ways to say you “hate” something without using that word?
I get angry with many things that people do. I resent being the one to deal with “x” situation. But I usually just end up saying I “hate” things because it’s easier.

It’s been brought to my attention recently that this makes me seem like a mean, hateful person.

How can I fix that perception without changing who I am??

Answers and Views:

Answer by Kelsette
Change “hate” to “dislike intensely” or “intensley dislike”.

For example, instead of “I hate this song!!”
Use : “I intensely dislike this song!”

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Answer by Jenny G
i “loathe”
i “despise”
GRRR!! lol that always works

Answer by learning curve
you could try saying you’re uncomfortable with it instead of saying you hate it. or you don’t care for it. something like that.

Answer by unholysergeant
abhor, abominate, allergic to*, anathematize, be loath, be reluctant, be sorry, can’t stand*, contemn, curse, deprecate, deride, despise, detest, disapprove, disdain, disfavor, dislike, disparage, down on*, execrate, loathe, nauseate*, object to, recoil from, scorn, shudder at, shun, spit upon*, spurn

Answer by kwflamingo
abhor, detest, despise, loathe

Answer by Lynn
Maybe rather than using the word “Hate” you say, “dislike”, “disagree” or “not happy with”. Maybe try not to vent about things that make you angry as much. Try your best to let it roll off your shoulders. Find another outlet for your anger.

I’ve had to make the same changes after someone told me about how I was perceived. For me it meant being more aware of the words I used to describe how I felt and trying not to complain about situations as much.

Answer by michele
Using alternative words for “hate” isn’t going to solve your problem. The problem that people are perceiving, is a constant focus on what you do NOT like.

Instead, use language that highlights what you PREFER.

Instead of saying “I hate/dislike/insert-negative-word-here those awful TV shows”, try something like:
“I really prefer the to watch documentaries”.

Instead of saying “I hate when my boyfriend stays out so late”, Try saying “It really makes me feel loved and safe when you come home early to spend time with me”.

Give it a try. You might be surprised at the results.

Best of luck,
~M~

Answer by lg_ncsu
loathe.
strongly dislike.

Answer by mallikarjun r
i don’t like or i am not interested

Answer by arklatexrat
I have used the phrases “that’s not my favorite” or “I don’t love that” in place of saying I “hate” something. If it’s said with the proper emphasis and tone of voice the point usually gets across in a light-hearted good-natured way.

If you need to make a serious point, get specific with your concerns so your argument doesn’t get lost in blanket “hate speech”. Try saying something like “that bothers/bugs/annoys/fill in the blank with other less offensive verb describing your reaction me because…..” and then give a logical reason why it’s a problem.

If you are overly critical all the time, and fail to see the positive in people or situations, or to forgive offenses when appropriate and move on, you will still seem like a “mean, hateful person” whether or not you use the word “hate”.

Answer by Tee
You can lose the “hate” word and swap it for “dislike”. Hate is a strong word and can make someone feel unloved, disliked or sad. It’s a hard word to take back. Use “dislike” or you could say “I don’t like you” or “You’re beginning to irritate me” “I can’t stand you” “It’s horrible” “You’re horrible” Try some of the other words and see how that helps. Good luck and try not to get so mad. Life is short my friend. Enjoy it as you only get one chance at it.

Answer by tangerine
Well, instead of saying that you “hate” something, you could say that you really “don’t like” it. However, aren’t you denying or minimizing your feelings if you do this?