Mia Mouse: The older boyfriend, the interested boss-lady, and the ‘special’ cake she made for him…Drama?! HELP!?
My boyfriend and I have been together for almost a year and a half. He’s a lot older than me (older by 15 years) so he has a lot more on his belt than me, so to speak. Anyway, I am still fairly young and am just learning how to cook and what-not. I live with him and, well, here is the situation:
When we met he told me about this WONDERFUL cake his grandmother made before she passed away. It was a “secret recipe” so nobody knows what it TRULY entailed. He REALLY wants to have it again…
~6 months ago I found a recipe to what sounded like the cake he had described. I, living at my father’s place at the time, called him and said that I found the recipe yadda-yadda-yadda would he mind if I made it for him. He said, pretty much, “No. Not right now.” (It wasn’t the best timing–I’m a “new cook” and was going through A LOT of stress so his answer was justified, I accepted it, and decided I‘d ask when drama calmed down with my father). I have since reminded him a couple of times about the recipe I found online, he knocked down the idea of this cake-baking project so I thought it was too hard for him to handle after-all since he had been close to his grandmother.
Two days ago I went to pick him up from work and he says, “Hey, we need to drop down by Marsha’s little shop because she made me a cake.”
I said, “Oh? What kind of cake?”
and he says, “Well, I told her what sort of cake my grandmother made before she passed away and she said she could probably find a recipe for it online. Well, she made it for me and brought it while I was out–so I have to pick it up at her little store.”
{Marsha is more his age, more confident, a “great“ cook, married but a swinger, and has shown GREAT interest in my boyfriend previously. My boyfriend even acknowledged that he KNEW she was flirting with him. For last note, Marsha owns the place my boyfriend is currently working at–so that‘s why he knows her}
Needless to say, I’m a bit hurt and confused. He wouldn’t allow me to make this “special” cake but he will this other woman? The other woman was tickled to death that he accepted the cake. She dressed up very nicely to present it and even wore make-up that day–which she NEVER wears. Marsha is well-aware that I’m new to the whole cooking-scene–she even laughed at me burning dinner one evening when he was telling her about how upset I was.
I’m not sure if I should be upset about this or not. He is really excited about the cake and Marsha has already called to see if he enjoyed it (hasn‘t had time to have it but promised her he‘d have a bite of it this evening). He doesn’t seem to realize anything that I am thinking about this (ie: She is proving that she can do something GREAT–to him–that I am unable to). I don’t want to be a ( v || + about this or make him feel guilty for accepting/eating/liking the cake. Gifts are great gestures and they are always welcome in this home. I am usually not a very jealous person but I feel pushed this time–I feel like this woman entered my territory and he happily welcomed her. Am I overreacting? Should I just let it go, share a piece of cake with him, and push aside my emotional drama? What should I be thinking or doing? I feel stupid but hurt at the same time…
Please, help!
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Answer by Help 2.0
tell him how you feel.
Believe me, hen us guys unintentionally do something bad, we feel VERY guilty, so he should as well, and maybe even apologize to you 😛
Also, if she’s his boos, then don’t you think it would be bad of him to reject an offer from a boss? regardless whether the boss has feelings for him.
Answer by Claudette BFood is the true way to a guys heart. see if there is anything Else he remembers about his grandmothers cooking that he liked and try to make it. But do it so you wont be taken as being jealous.
As for the other chic, Is he interested in her? And how do you know that he didn’t just accepted it because they work together? Have you tried to tell him how you feel? Even if he thinks you are being silly?
Eat a piece of the cake with him. Enjoy it. And try to do better. You can do it girl!!!!
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