Parents…..?

crazy cat ladies: Parents…..?
My boyfriends dad thinks that we’re having sex. We aren’t. We’ve been together a year and 7 months and we’re only 15, we aren’t stupid enough to have sex at 15 but as many times as my bf tells him that he keeps thinking we’re having sex. Yes we kiss & make out a lot but we truely do love each other, our relationship is based on trust and loyalty, we talk about everything, most importantly we dont want to have sex..We know we love each other so the way we see it we’re in love, we’ll be together a long time, there will be plenty of time for that kind of thing if we get married, but no one believes that we dont believe in sex before marriage. And yes, his parents had him very young and they aren’t together anymore, thats another reason we want to wait, but his dad only focuses on the way he was when he was 15. Believe it or not some of us do want to wait! So can someone please tell me why parents always assume that kids are having sex? What’s a way to convince him for good that we aren’t?

Answers and Views:

Answer by 156to you 765897 hy67890
u should tell them what u just told us

Answer by Jade
How about you go with your boyfriend and tell his father yourself. That you both respect each other and love each other enough to wait

Answer by lordmisrule2004
They think that way because they remember how it was when they were younger, and how they couldn’t control their own urges. They also know how tempting it is, and how the statistics are that most kids your age are experienced or have experienced sexual relations.

You could probably sit down with them and talk to them about it. Tell them you are willing to sign a contract with them to honor your vow to not have sex until (time limit, marriage, or etc.). Or, you could avoid being alone with him, and always make it a point to be together while you’re with other people. This could go a long ways in alleviating his fears.

Answer by Kelsey H
I’ve had this same problem. There really is no way to convince him- he’s just being an overprotective dad. You just have to remind yourself that you’re being smart. When his dad is around, dress modestly and don’t bring up the subject of sex in any way, shape, or form- if he brings it up anyway, HE has a problem, not you. If it gets really bad, try to hang out less at his house, hang out at your own house or go to dinner instead- but first just try leaving it alone, that’s what worked for me.
<3 Kelsey

Answer by Lindy
Firstly I would like to congratulate you on your mature outlook to your relationship! I for one would be proud to have you as my daughter. I would be pleased if you and your boyfriend were conducting your relationship in such a mature way!

However, if you were my daughter I would still be unsure, speaking as a parent of 4 aged 12-19, you need to be open and honest with both sets of parents. Tell them that it’s not that you don’t think about having sex, it’s just that you relaise that you aren’t ready for it yet…..

As a parent on the outside looking in it’s easy for me to say what to do and say, if I was your Mum, I would probably nag and moan at you, but only because I want the best for you!

Answer by Alison p
its because they really dont want you doing it… they probaly don’t want your life ruined, and trust me, they are stopping you for a good reason. as long as you don’t do it, and keep your loyalty up and wait till you’re out of school, they will trust you. a good way to covince them is to remind them how long you kept without doing it.

Answer by emilyannlinton
tell him to read this some kids do not want to have sex at this age so u need to believe her b/c i don’t think that she would want o have sex

Answer by Donna
unfortunately, i doubt there is a way you can convince a parent of something like this. if they have a ‘reason to suspect’ in their eyes that you two may be sleeping together, thats it. however one of the posters above got it right, you could tell them what you just told us. just make sure you say it in a mature responsible way, not get into a row and shout out ‘fine, if you don’t believe me….!’
the thing is, if his parents made mistakes when they were your age they’re gonna do anything they can short of handcuffing you to them to make sure you don’t make that mistake too. but thats just them being protective parents and as much as you may hate it, its not about to change. my advice? tell them you’ll say it once and for all and if they don’t believe you then there’s not much you can do about it, they need to let you make your own mistakes. just go about your lives together, and be happy knowing that you’ve made a sensible grown up decision that you’re not about to regret. one day, they will believe you, just maybe not as quickly as you’d like. if you’re serious, they’ll come round. good luck.x