lovemeorhateme: How can I ask my parents if I want to go to the movies with my friends?
Okay. My parents are very strict and doesnt allow us to go anywhere. For example, one whole year, I only get to go out with my friends twice/three times and that’s soooo less compare to other families that have strict parents, right?!
My parents doesnt allow us to date but i have a bf that they doesnt know about, so i wanna go to the movies with him but i dont kn ow how to lie/ask them?
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Answer by Coach♥Channel
yeah im kinda like the same with you. i cant have aim, facebook, myspace, cant go to the movies or mall alone with friends at night, but im not sure if i can date. i dated someone last year for like 2 weeks and i never told them…..
I have no idea what situation you are in so modify your response accordingly.
I am a parent. I am really picky about where my kids go and with whom. If you were my kid I would want you to be honest with me. If they are uncomfortable with the situation (your proposal). invite them to go along or to drop you off and pick you up. I actually did this a fair amount when my kids were younger. It was less about my trusting them and much more about overcoming my own fears about all the aweful things that could happen to them. Help them get comfortable. If it is okay, you may even ask to invite the guy over for dinner to just hang out so your parents can meet him and get comfortable. If you do this, plan an activity so the poor guy isn’t sitting there getting stared at!
You are either going to choose to continue to build on the relationship with your mom & dad or start to tear it apart based on how you handle situations like this as you mature. It will also impact how you build and manage other relationships in the future. It seems to me you are more in control than you realize as you have all the choices and the next “move” is your alone.
If you lie to them, you will know it and it will likely eat at you and start to alienate you by creating an emotional barrier even if they never find out. If you are straight with them it should (with healthy well asjusted people) build your credibility with them. Maybe if they go with you a time or two and see you behaving appropriately they will give you a little more slack moving forward. If your boy friend is really your boy friend he will like the idea. Trust me, as a guy that remembers sneaking around with someone I dated in high school (that had very strict parents) and eventually getting caught, it is a bad way to go. Especially if you genuinely like each other.
Give your parents the benefit of the doubt. Be honest, direct and after you ask, be quiet and allow then to speak. Give them some time to think it over. Be polite and respectful but don’t give up.
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