ORGASM??!!?!?!?! …?

Jamie M: ORGASM??!!?!?!?! …?
ya, that got your attention.

well, my boyfriend trys so hard to get me to have an orgasm when we are in the bedroom. but the thing is, ive never had one, and i dont even know how to fake it.
i know that it is more difficult for women to orgasm than men, so im not expecting it to happen, but he is. i dont want him to think hes doing anything wrong, cuz hes not.
is there anthing i can do, to maybe get there, or atleast fake it?
how would i fake it if i did?
any answers would be helpfull.
thanks.

Answers and Views:

Answer by Marii ツ
Fake it… by moaning.
You need to… honestly, experiment with yourself.
There has to be a spot that he can “touch” that will make you go crazy.
It’s just a matter of practice.

Answer by borsh
i have no idea

Answer by TTBeezy
Lol trust me if your not reaching climax than he is doing something wrong. Don’t fake it tell him staight up cause if he finds out you have been faking it all along he will feel worse.

Answer by AfricanLion
maybe ur not focused on what you guys are doing and ur worried about other things.. just let lose and think about what hes doin to you and jus enjoy it..get on top.. it helps too.. reverse cowgirl really triggers it.. touch urself a lil too while hes doin it… itll come trust meeee 😉

Answer by Curious
that women have a harder time reaching an orgasm is not totally true. we just need more time to get there which is why we need foreplay.

2 things, could you be trying to hard? it’s almost impossible to reach an orgasm if you are totally aware of what’s happening. you need to reach a point where you can’t control your body and it reaches the point of climax (that’s why it’s called that).

the other thing is, you may just not be sexually compatible with your bf. sad but too true sometimes.

Answer by Leigh
DON’T fake it. You’re betraying a trust and depriving yourself. If he’s a good guy and he cares about you, and you tell him you want one he’ll keep trying until you have one.

What you need to do is quit trying so hard. The surest way to not have one is to want one too badly. It comes when you’re relaxed … quit worrying and eventually it will happen.

Answer by vaginaman08
You know what…I don’t think you should worry so much, & certainly don’t think you should fake it. If you ‘lie’ to him in the bed room, & finds out, where else may he believe you are ‘lying’ to him??? Just be w/ each other do your thing/s together, play & have fun. TALK to him about what you two can do together to help you both get where you wanna be! (It takes two to Tango…)

Answer by accuristau
Umm…one word – tongue!

Answer by RICHARD V
ok first ,,,he is doing something wrong,,, you need to bust a nut 2.

Every woman is different, but if you help him you can both find out where your spot is,,,,,,,

don’t want to brag, but i’m very good at finding the ladies sweet spot,,,mainly because i ask!!!!!!!! lol

Answer by Tig O
dont fake it, hes gonna feel stupid if he finds out.

Answer by キティ Jrock
faking it seems like betrayal.
experience different ‘positions’.

btw, the title REALLY did get my attention LOL.

Answer by Dan from IncredibleInBed.com
Firstly, I’m glad you’re not faking it and hope you never do. As others have mentioned, this will only cause problems later on down the track.

To reiterate: DO NOT FAKE IT.

Usually females are unable to reach orgasm because they are not in the right state. That is, for a woman to orgasm, there has to be a lot of sexual tension built up and a lot of foreplay – she has to be really wet and horny before she can orgasm easily (or sometimes at all).

The short answer is that you and your partner both have to learn how to create the right set of circumstances for you to orgasm, and then lead you to the orgasm itself.

Without knowing more it’s difficult to say exactly where the problem is, but I strongly suggest that you try and have an orgasm by yourself. Set aside an evening or afternoon and just explore your body, enjoying the sensations. Once you are a bit more in tune with what you like you can tell him what to do to help ensure your sexual pleasure.

Obviously your question needs a much more in-depth answer but obviously there’s not really room here. I suggest you check out the following two links:

There’s a whole heap of stuff there about the importance of different parts of the female anatomy, how to build sexual tension, and so forth. I suggest sitting down with your partner sometime, reading through some of it, and discussing it with him.

Feel free to contact me if you need any more clarification.

Kind regards,

-Dan