My sister is only 21, is she too young to be getting married?

Marie818: My sister is only 21, is she too young to be getting married?
My sister is 21 and 22 in October. Her boyfriend is 23 and 24 in May. They have been dating for 5 years and got engaged 6 months ago. They moved in together last year and both have good jobs. Are they a bit too young to be engaged? They are planning on marrrying this November. Is this too fast? Thanks.

Answers and Views:

Answer by sosol
depends on her brain

Answer by confusedgirl
no if its love they should join together as long as they love each other 😀
my dad was 35 and my mum was 22 when they got married and its nearly 30 years down the line and they are still married

Answer by 🙂
its their decision let her worry about it they have been together 5 years. and my mom got married at 19 xx

Answer by Tara
I don’t think they are too young nessicarrily. They are financially stable and she will be 22 when she is married and will have dated her husband for 6 years by then. Also she will have been engaged a year. That is not really all that fast.

Answer by Suz123
If it were my sister? In the interest of family harmony, I would mind my own business . . . and keep my opinions to myself. I wouldn’t even go there.

If she asks you to be a member of the bridal party? You be as kind and as helpful as you can possibly be . . . and you keep your opinions to yourself. That’s the best advice I can give you. Good luck.

Answer by 40
since they have been dating for 5 years no its not to soon if her boyfriend knows your family and your sister is good with her in laws then no my sister got married at 18 both her and her bf

Answer by Lucy06
Be happy for your sister. They might be too young but at the end of the day its their decision its part of growing up, learning from their mistakes (I’m not saying its a mistake) They been dating for a long time and they are ready to take the next step.

Answer by DatingLoveMarriage
No, your sister isn’t too young to be getting married. At 21, she’s already an adult.

Answer by Eric and Kelly
After five years of dating, that’s not too fast. I don’t think that’s too young either.

Answer by ScorpioKiss1121
Well if she’s been with her fiance for 5 years then that has to say that their relationship is pretty serious. Most young people can barely last a few months so that means that there must be love and it must really mean something to take it to the next level. If she’s mature and she can handle it then they should be fine. There are far more people younger than her that are getting married and although she may be young, that doesn’t mean that their marriage isn’t going to last. Marriage is a growing and life changing experience and with the right person and the a strong love, they should be able to overcome each obstacle. Its not too fast if thats what two people feel in their heart. No one can understand what two people in love have between them unless they are in the relationship with them.

Answer by Miss Nikki
If they love each other, are both financially stable, and both are on the same page about marriage and children, then no. She is not too young. i wish i would’ve found love 5 years ago! I’ll be 22 this year as well!

Answer by Jack
People used to get married as teenagers. Some people grow up faster than others.

Answer by Messykatt
It’s not really a function of age, although many people who get serious about one person when they’re a teenager and then end up marrying that person regret it. She’s never experienced life as an independent, single adult. I got married at 27 and it was perfect – I wouldn’t trade my college and post-college years for anything. I partied, I traveled, I got my career going, made lifelong friendships…

But if they’re financially stable and this is what she wants, it’s going to be hard to find a reason to talk her out of it.

Answer by Poppet
No it is not too soon.

Answer by been there got the t-shirt
There’s people that are going to say yes, and there’s people that are going to say no. Really, it doesn’t matter what anyone on answers website thinks. Furthermore, it actually doesn’t even matter what YOU think about it, because it’s her life.

Under the circumstances that you explained for your sister, I definitely wouldn’t be preaching the “too young” card to her myself. I think she is a lot more suitable candidate for marriage than a lot of other 21 year old’s that get married, and probably more than some people older as well.

I wouldn’t piss on her wheaties. If you think she’s too young, I would keep that to yourself. She’s not going to cancel her wedding over your opinion – all you are going to do is piss her off and create unnecessary family tension.

Answer by Singer/Songwriter
Yes I think it is too soon. Even though they have been dating for 5 years (great amount of time to be dating before marriage) but she is only 21. Did she ever live alone to get some experience in the world? People need that before they commit to someone. Have them take counseling and get them really ready for this

Answer by Priรciℓℓα ✟
No, that is not too young to be getting married, especially if both she and her fiance have good jobs and have been together that long.

People become ready for marriage at different ages. It depends on the person. You haven’t listed any reasons to believe she is not ready.

…. is the issue here maybe that you are jealous?

Answer by scweetci_87bc
The average age of an American bride is 22, and the average age of the groom is 25, so they are about right. 🙂

As long as they love each other and it is not a marriage of convenience they are ready.

Answer by Perse
Yes.

Answer by Chickababe
No not at all! First, only she can tell. and second, I think that is perfectly normal and acceptible. they both know that they want to be with each other…

Answer by melior quam vos
That sounds perfect to me.

Also, it is NONE of your business.

Answer by Libby
They’re not terribly young. They’ve been together a while. They’ve lived together probably as a “trial run.” They are working and supporting themselves. I’m guessing that they’re out of school, or that your sister will be very soon.

Seems like they’re doing everything right to me. 22 and 24 is a bit young to get married in my book, but the key there is that they are both in the working world and have decent jobs. If they were not supporting themselves, I’d feel differently.

Answer by make me up
age shouldn’t matter if she feels ready be happy for her

Answer by Christina
I think if she feels she’s ready, then that’s what matters. She’s not too young. They’re stable. A year engagement is pretty average. My parents were married at 21 after 3 years of dating and they’re fine 31 years later. Of course there is no magic formula to predict a marriage’s success, people just have to make the decision that feels right for them.