Georgie: My 17-year-old son is “in love” with an 11 girl. What do I do to convince him not to pursue this relationship?
He says he “loves” her and that he always wants to be with her forever. I do not feel comfortable that my almost adult son is attracted to an elementary school girl.
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Answer by Vasara
Forbid him from seeing her! Do her parents know? Are they sexually active? Her parents could put him in jail! Maybe that is what he needs. Take him to see a therapist, maybe there is a reason for this. He could be a pedaphile. And no, Im not trying to be rude or put down your parenting skills or your son, but you are right, he is almost a grown adult and this is a little girl. Maybe he needs help.
I would take him to a therapist. Also, where does he know this girl from?Answer by Rachbbd
Look, you need to alert him of the very big possibility that he will ruin her future and she will not be able to do good in school because he is constantly around her. It pushes her to grow up faster and she will prob. fall pregnant while she is still young, if the relationship blossoms into seriousness. I know it hurts, but he will be limiting her future and his own.
You are also the parent and you have to put down some ground rules.
P.S If he really loves her, he will do what is best for both of them and leave the girl alone.
Good Luck!
Answer by car05161967Tell him that, you will have him sent to prison, for:
1. Contributing To The Delinquency Of A Minor
2. Statutory Rape
Of course, both of those is pursuant to, if he actually does those things.
Get her name and, call her parents to warn them.
Answer by Eric R.Tell him it’s not right for someone who’s almost a grown man to pursue a child who hasn’t even hit even hit her teens. Or show him the Tom Fontana series Oz (ever seen Arrested Development?) and tell him that’s where he’ll end up if he pursues this relationship.Answer by Why Ayyah*!
Yeah thats wrong id do anything to keep em apart!Answer by Froto
tell him that if he does anything to her or with her in the next 5 years, he will go to jail. can he really wait 5 years before he starts to want something more?
I would keep the two of them as far away from each other as possible. when she is 21 and can make her own choices they can get back together.
Answer by Sawyer MI think that the main reason your son wants to be with a younger girl is because he doesnt have enough self esteem to ask a girl his age out for a dinner or activity…you could get in touch with some of his friends and plan an activity with his friends and a few girls his age to go hiking, ice skating or
shopping… you need to tell him your feelings about him dating a younger girl and how long he would have to wait til he is legally able to marry her….you should also tell him about what would happen if he got her pregnant…(ripping of the organs during birth because of lack of maturity.)
Within the next few days you need to take him on the internet and give him a taste of what is really out there. You should show him some things that may open his eyes to older women. i am 14 and i have had some mistakes on the internet but now i am through with that stage i know the importance of dating women within my age range…most boys see their first adult image at around 11-12 years old. if he didnt have that experience those images he may just feel as though he cant take on a women his age. so what you should do is ask him to go to adult sites and see what kind of tastes he has and DO NOT ALLOW CHILD IMAGES! (i think it is legal to let you kids see adult images if you are supervising and allow it.) This should help him to get over the urges he has to want younger girls… you may want to talk this over with a good friend and see if it seems reasonable.
Answer by Nique Jummm i would definitely tell someone like a therapist or maybe even her parents…. this is really inappropriate and i know that you love your son, so you should seek help for him
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