Marriage!!??

Roberto R: Marriage!!??
We have been living together for a while planning to get married next June. Does anything change after you get married, even after you have lived together for awhile? Or does everything stay basically the same?

Answers and Views:

Answer by Akullore M
Che bella domanda, magari lo sapessi 🙂

Answer by srs112982
It all depends on your relationship. I was living with my boyfriend before we got married and things are the same but it varies for each relationship.

Answer by esimba69
its way different because ur married ur not just boyfriend and gurl friend now ur husband and wife and so things will have to change the way you and him spend money and alot more things

Answer by Luv2Answer
Everything stays the same. The reason why the divorce rate for people who live together before marriage is so high is because people believe that things will change. They don’t!

Answer by Kaya M
It it up to you guys. Marriage is not a goal you get to and stop when you get married. Many folks think that way and it is wrong. Marriage is a life time commitment to each other to endure over the years to come.

Answer by JustAHunch
I think the biggest change is that you are now totally committed to each other and have great incentive to make it work. Sometimes I’ve seen guys stop helping with housework once they are married. Don’t do that, and you’ll be okay. Marriage gives each partner a sense of belonging and value. She chose to keep you, so she married you forever. You can be proud of that and you have to live up to her expectations (and she to yours). Congrats!

Answer by ReRe
It all depends on your relationship. For someone people things will change, but change can also be a good thing. I would say don’t worry about it. If you truly love your fiancee and you know that this is the one you want to spend the rest of your life with then you can handle any changes that arise. Good luck and congrats!

Answer by madhu
my husband changed a lot
he became lot better. before wedding he always used to feel everything urs and mine.
ex–like my family, ur family etc
now he feels me as most important person. he is giving 1st preference to me unlike before when he used to prefer his family in his decisions.
now he is consulting me for everything and also respecting my ideas and feelings

Answer by kateqd30
Everything changes.

Once those rings go on, everything good and bad about your mate comes out. You are both on your “good behavior” right now(even if you’ve lived together for 10 years), once its legal and that piece of paper makes it hard for the both of you to leave, each will become comfortable and the “good behavior” will go right out the window. But thats the fun of the first 2 years, thats when you REALLY get to know your mate.

Answer by Brutally Honest
You wouldn’t think so, but it does seem to do so. My husband and I lived together for over a year before getting married, but I’ll tell you, our first year of MARRIED life was really hard!!

Answer by Bright Light
Roberto,

It depends on the maturity of the couple and how honest they have been with each other.
Being legally married is just a legal contract that binds you guys financially 50%-50% each.
Getting married at church, in front of God, sort to speak, it supposed to be a covenant for life, 100%-100% from each spouse.
If the couple has previously built a solid foundation in their relationship, getting married doesn’t make a difference. The couple will grow together and enjoy each others companionship.
If the couple has not a tangible foundation other than good sex and getting along, eventually the relationship will be broken with or without marriage contract or covenant.
Marriage is a beautiful principle which was meant to keep a couple together for life and preserve and protect the family. Unfortunately, it’s not the norm any more.
Hopefully you and your girlfriend may contribute to change the trend.

Answer by Katie G
It depends. I lived with my boyfriend, we had a daughter, and bought our first house together before we ever got married. By the time we did, nothing really changed except the joy of being able to call eachother husband and wife.

Answer by Miranda
everything stayed the same with us but my friends got married in june now they fight more

Answer by Kitty
It depends on the couple I guess. For us, the main thing that’s changed was how others perceived our relationship. Overnight, our relationship has moved to a different “social plane”. I got along great with his family before we got married, but they didn’t fully embrace and accept me as a part of the family until after the wedding. A small example: we spent our first “joint” Christmas (2005) with his family; by then we had known each other for a year, and lived together for over 6 months. We got married the following year; we spent 2006 Christmas with his family as well. His mom got us a cute little ornament which read “First Christmas Together 2006”; I was taken aback by it, because I considered us to be “together” back in 2005 – we were fully committed as a couple; but to other people, I guess, it’s not “real” until the papers are signed. At least, this has been my experience. Not much changed between us after signing of the marriage license – it seems that in our hearts we had been “married” long before that.

Answer by PerfectlyHeartBroken
no not really

Answer by keepyourhandsoffmycat
If anything, it should improve but it shouldn’t change in a bad way.