Is marriage a goal for some people even in unhappy marriages?

Jaime: Is marriage a goal for some people even in unhappy marriages?
Some people stay in unhappy marriages even though they don’t like the other person. Is marriage a goal for these people even if it compromises their own happiness?

Answers and Views:

Answer by Logana
Good question. Sometimes the person we are in love with can make us miserable and we are afraid to leave

Answer by ramesh vishvas
no,if someone is uncomfortable in the insitution of marraige,it is always better to be alone legally.

Answer by Memory
Yes, for some though unhappy believe they should stick with it. Some people take their vows very seriously. When they said for better or worse, they meant it.

Answer by Larry n Christy
Yes because it is a commitment, a bond that through the years were taught is sacred. I myself don’t believe in divorce but if your not happy and ALL attempts have been made including counseling then being alone may be the best thing. Some people though actually find happiness in being unhappy, does that make sense? Seriously, some people would rather be together unhappy then happy or unhappy apart. Good Luck….

Answer by SVRVH
People of different beliefs will say many different things. This all depends on how long you have been unhappy and what you have done to fix it as a married couple. If you are unhappy because you have fallen out of love you have to ask yourself the question if in your mind marriage is something of pure love or in some ways lust as well. If you have been unhappy for some time for many reasons and perhaps fight a lot then maybe divorce is ideal. I only say this because of my mother she has been with my step dad for over 14 years and they are completely miserable but because they have kids and both have security issues they stay together. They cant talk with out arguing…. I think you will just have to make up your mind something someone you don’t know cant really say. I do recommend trying to stay in your marriage for my personal beliefs but its your life and I cant judge you and like yourself all I can say is I wish you happiness in what you choose.

Answer by Veronica
yeah some people stay because of there kids they prefer to be unhappy than to leave the marriage and hurt there kids

Answer by cougaroh24
it depends on if kids are involved or not and how many there are.
Sometimes people stay in a marriage so it doesn’t upset things for the kids.

If no kids are involved, I don’t see any reason to stay in a marriage with someone you don’t love.

Some marriages start off bad and they probably never should have taken place.

In others things happen or people try to change to much and get away from what worked before they were married.

Its best if you experience many things as a couple before you get married to see if you can handle situations that arise after you get married.

Answer by j92cool
Every marriage has it’s ups and downs and sometimes you may believe you don’t really like your spouse much but it will pass and things will get much better. I think some get stuck in a marriage of convenience while they are sitting out a rough patch that seems to just go on & on. My vows were important to me and I would have tired anything to make it work.

Answer by mochabiznswmn
Sad to say a lot of people stay for all of the wrong reasons and they are in a comfort zone even if it is not the best thing for them and they end up spending a lifetime in a lie..but some get the strength to walk away and realize that it is ok to start over..

Answer by acedelux
If you are unhappy being married, then why in the world would you want to do it again?

Answer by Evangeline
I’ll trade happiness for joy any day, happiness happens and is dependent on others. Joy is an expectation of good that no feeling can change. My joy is up to me, expecting happiness puts that responsibility on my spouse. I did not expect marriage to make me complete, We should come into marriage to give, not receive, then when we receive we are pleasantly surprised and joyfully sustained. People put to much pressure on their spouses to make them complete. This is the wrong perspective and with it marriage is doomed from the start.