Is it bad to help out your fiancee with money problems?

Mindy Ramirez: Is it bad to help out your fiancee with money problems?
Ok, my fiancee doesn’t make good money at all. He needs help with a down payment on a new decent car. My mom always told me that I shouldn’t be helping him out with money. Because he should be the provider. But I will not see my fiancee struggle! Is it any of my moms business with the hard earned money I make and what I do with it?

Answers and Views:

Answer by Art Vandelay
she is just trying to protect you from making a mistake with a loser.

Answer by strange-artist
Go for it-He can always pay you back if possible. (In the future, he’ll find a better job, & help you out too)

Answer by Ou812 The Hated Crakker
Yes. If he’s financially irresponsible now he’s going to be worse in the future.

-I’ve personally thrown a tramp out for hiding $ 15,742 in debt from me. I could have easily paid it off ( and she knew it) because in the long run 15k is nothing but the fact she hid it tells me another story.

I went out and bought a beautiful new motorcycle with the 10k I set aside for her engagement ring. God I love that bike!
She looked a little perplexed when I came home with it until i told her to pack her sh!t.

Answer by Trent
Hard to answer without knowing both of you. What does he do for a living? How old is he?
Is this a habit of his?
Basically, it’s up to you but if it becomes a habit or he stays in the same low paying job you might want to really think this situation out some more. Maybe he’s not the right guy.

Answer by Mrs. Joseph
If you love and trust him, I don’t see the problem. Marriage is about a partnership. If you know that he would do the same if the tables were turned. Go for it. You guys should be able to provide for each other. Its not your moms business but that’s not going to stop her from having an opinion and wanting her daughter to be mindful and make good decisions.

Answer by Trying
How can it be bad to help the person you’re gong to be married to? It’s not like you’re doing anything wrong. Help him and be supportive because that’s what spouses do! (Of course only if you want to)

Your mom sounds like mine was. Sometimes it best just to keep things from her that aren’t really her business.

Answer by Poopsie Mellish
Save your money. He needs to man up and earn his own! your mom is right! I can understand if you are married and the car is in your name too, but he needs to get his own darned car! If he dumps you, it will be a gift and your investment is gone! Don’t do it!

Answer by Brennen
if he cant afford a car how can he afford a fiancee secondly act like you guys are married and your really not.

Answer by texasgurl01
oh no this already sounds bad, you lending him money because he’s struggling. Well, I just wouldn’t do it. He should take public transportation and save his money for his down payment. I hope he doesn’t take your money.

Answer by oneiloilokano
It’s not bad to help out financially when needed.
A brand new car is not a need !
Your Mom is trying to protect you.
Seen my share of guys use women to buy them new cars etc. and then split.

I kept my money seperate until we got married. I believe you should do the same.