Jay: If your fiancee said repeatedly she was going to leave you and she blamed all her problems and personal?
Problems on you, what would you do? What would you say to her? This is the problem that I am having with my fiancee, any advice would be great.
Answers and Views:
Answer by kitkat
Let her leave and go blame everything on the next poor guy. Be glad you didn’t marry her. What a life you would have had.
Leave her. She’s going to get worse when she’s married. She just wants to control you; she’s threatening to leave to get her way.Answer by Ocimom
I would end the relationship. Honestly, if she is like that now, it will be 10 times worse if you marry her. People who blame others for all their problems – they have the biggest problem of all!Answer by daisymayNY
pack her a lunch and send her down the road.
theres too many girl out there that would like to date you.Answer by barechickabarenare
You won’t listen, but anyone who has been there will give you the same advice, and they will be right:
DO NOT MARRY THIS PYSCHO B****!!!!
Seriously, pack your crap and go. Right now. Of course you won’t, and ten years from now when you are going through a nasty divorce you will be kicking yourself.Answer by Coolmom 365
If i were you I would say to her: If you are truly as miserable in our relationship as you say, then I think it is truly best for you to leave. I only want your happiness, and you are not happy right now. For the time being I will be here and wait for you, but I will not wait forever. If I feel I have lost you for good then I will move on.
Then do exactly what you said, let her go, and wait as long as you feel comfortable waiting.
You two don’t have a chance, if she can’t realize that her problems are hers and not yours. You could try and fix them together, but she does not seem to be able to see that.
Let her go..and thts so stupid what she is doing how can you be responsable for her problem did you told her to create themAnswer by Cyn
Think about what might really be causing her problems and confront her. While I’m sure you’re not 100% innocent I’m positive you’re not even 50% responsible for her problems.
Let her know that if she needs to use you as a scapegoat or is unwilling to talk and overcome her problems, then you should just end the relationship right now.
Marriage can be stressful, no need to add her bullsht baggage to it.Answer by iyamacog
I’d wave, and say bye-bye……..♥♥Answer by TRACEY G
Pack her a bag mate!Answer by Akhi
Let her leave unless you want her playing these histrionics for the rest of your life.
Have you so little self esteem as to think she will treat you better after she has you locked in a marriage that is very hard to reverse. Have you any idea how long it could take to get divorced from this unappreciative woman…..
If you love someone, let them free, if they come back they are yours and if they dont come back they never were yours in the first place…..this old drivel that girls love to recite is WISDOM men can learn from…..
are you so desperate a human being that you need to twist a woman’s arm to be with you? OF COURSE NOT!
You have redeeming traits and qualities and are worthy of love, right? You strive to treat people with respect?
If this be the case, you’ll have no trouble finding a replacement!
If she doesnt value you, you dont need her. It does NOT mean she is a bad person, but you may not be compatible……
send her on her way….get the ring back if she is so unhappy….the woman who will really love you will probably love to have that ring…ar you enamored with unappreciative women? No, then find a woman who IS appreciative for little stuff AND big stuff….and strive to treat her as well as she treats you…..
youll be fine, youve been treated like a doormat for too long……try reading a book about masculism….you dont have to bang your chest or disrespect women, but you dont need to emasculate yourself to make her happy…Answer by Starlite
Save yourself years of misery and let her leave, in fact help her leave.
She needs to realize that she and only she is responsible for her problems. She has a choice, we all have choices. She sounds like a nightmare. The next time she tells you she is going to leave, ask her when and offer to help her. Explain to her that you are sick and tired of her blaming all the miseries of her piteous life on you. How miserable you must feel, love is supposed to be wonderful and cannot survive a life with her.Answer by Smirny
Unless you really are the reason for her problems…….. LEAVE THE WOMAN. The issues will not magically get better after you get marriedAnswer by Dreamer. That’s it.
Do NOT marry her. If she’s giving you crap already, she’ll just get worse afterwards.
No offense, but she sounds like a real b!tch. Leave her; don’t give her the pleasure of being the one to leave.
Trust me, you don’t want to marry someone who you either don’t love or do love but aren’t happy with. Most of my immediate family suffers from that. I’ve seen too many relationships go down the toilet to trust them, even. Don’t marry the girl.Answer by Aethor
Leave her – if she blames all her problems on you, what is she doing with you anyway? If she doesn’t like being with you, show her the door.