IF you have met a man / woman and were real close to “falling in Love” with…?

lady_kikyo_xxx: IF you have met a man / woman and were real close to “falling in Love” with…?
…a man or woman who had lost an eye, arm, or leg compliments of “Bush’s War” in Iraq, and you had no idea of their disability until AFTER you had bedded them,
WOULD you “BREAK IT OFF” with them???

(You might argue that THIS type of question has no place in “R&S”; I disagree. It has EVERYTHING to do with your “Spiritual” feelings.)

Lady Kikyo

Answers and Views:

Answer by Steve C
Honor our brave troops, show them loyalty.

Answer by momma
no because love is deeper than just appearance!

Answer by aleasha_Sam01
no, I’m not that shallow. Especially if I was really close to falling for them and not infatuated with the idea of falling in love…

Answer by Edgar
i think if it were true love it wouldn’t matter.

Answer by super_pants
Well, no. Maybe, if I felt they had done a lot to keep the disability from me, e.g. lots of lying. But otherwise, no.

Answer by bornagainbrat
First of all how would you not know? And no it would make no difference to me.

Answer by ~Astro-Jen~
its whats in the inside that counts isnt it it sounds so cliche but its the truth

Answer by goddess_branch
You wouldn’t if your love is strong enough to make you hold on.

Love is like a roll of tape, and people are like paper.

The tape sticks two pieces of paper together, but if the tape is not strong enough, it breaks off.

Answer by BabeHeart
Apparently you copy/pasted this from R&S because you posted it in S&D.

I’d have to say prosthetics must’ve come a LONG way if a false eye, arm, or leg isn’t apparent until you’re getting naked with someone and they remove it…I can’t see how someone wouldn’t figure it out prior to “bedding” that person.

Would I break it off, because they had a fake eye or limb? I can’t see why that would be a deal breaker by itself…but then I’ve not been in that position either.

Answer by Raymond H.
Well one should not love another for their body but rather for their heart and mind, and simply who they are as a person. So it’s a no for me. If you truly love ’em then stay with ’em and help them get through their problems.

Answer by soooo???………
if you feel like you are falling in live with them, then it shouldnt matter. just a question, how could you not notice they had lost an arm, leg or eye untill after you slept with them?

Answer by Kathy R
It depends on how you felt about that person in the first place. I certainly wouldn’t break up with someone simply because of a disability. Especially if I cared about them.

Answer by Elizabeth
A. I would not be “bedding” people I don’t know that well. I want an intimate knowledge of their personality before I get an intimate knowledge of their body.

B. If the person had not been honest with me about their disability before that (and it wasn’t obvious from looking at them) and they got me into bed, then I would break it off not because of the disability itself, but because of the fact that they didn’t trust me enough to tell me.

It has nothing to do with my spiritual feelings – it’s how I am in relatioships. Trust first, always.

Answer by srh_rose_huffman
first of all i wouldn’t have “bedded” him because i’m waiting for marriage.and second of all,NO i wouldn’t break it off with them.if you had to be TOLD that they had a disability then why does it matter???you didn’t notice it before!

Answer by prplfae
first of all, i would take the time to notice everything about a man before i jump into bed with him, especially if he was missing an arm or something…its impossible not to notice. but saying it did happen, it would not change the way i feel about him

Answer by K-Sama
That doesn’t seem like a valid reason to break things off to me. Unless it’s a big turn-off for you, that is.

Answer by luv_hotsauce
if you really liked him or loved him then no

Answer by John H
Well it all depends on the person and what type of relationship you hope to gain from it. If you think they might be your true love, then you should be able to push past or overlook the disability. “Never judge a book by its cover,” how many times has this been said concerning relationships. When time and aging take effect in people, they will understand that now matter how hard they try to deny it, the body or shell will always change, it will sag, get wrinkles, it will start to hurt then you move, and all of that. The only thing that will remain unaltered by time would be their soul, who they are on the inside. When that time comes you will know true love.

Answer by gr8ful_one
If their disability bothered you why bother going to bed with them..why bother them at all…

You either like them for who they are or you don’t . Are u so superficial that you can not see past it to who they really are…
and what does it matter how they were disfigured…war or a car crash whatever…I don’t like this whole attitude.

If I like them I like them…and you see what you see…

Answer by Midori
This is a question you have to ask yourself.. Does apperance really matter that he has all his body part? I always’ ask that question to my self. Would it matter if they were blind or handicap.. Do you really love the person or is it just infactuation… I know alot of shallow people out there and just because of appearance they are treated differently.. It just depends if your ready for that. And it should not matter what other people think it’s what you feel inside for the person.

Answer by sheri_kleinharris
you’ve got to ask that person why they didn’t tell you about there disability,maybe they thought it would scare you away.the question is actually to yourself ,do you both love each other?and can you live the rest of your life with his /her disability.i know if i wanted to spend the rest of my like with somebody that no matter what happened I’d take care of that person,for better or worse.do you trust that person or are they a lire?