I am pretty but guys don’t “fall in love,” with me. Read and tell me what you think?

agrin1369: I am pretty but guys don’t “fall in love,” with me. Read and tell me what you think?
First things first. I just watched the lake house; it’s a movie. If you haven’t watched it, please do, it’s really good. It’s romantic!

I am asking this on here looking for honest opinions, don’t try to protect my feelings please. Otherwise, I could just ask my friends and family and get the same answers. *I am looking for real answers haha.

I am 20 and have never had a boyfriend. Until I was 19, I was overweight (not obese or anything) and had little confidence in myself. I lost most of the weight and I would be considered thin/healthy at this point.

Guys flirt with me all the time. In the streets, at school, at cafes, at bars. Not every guy obviously, but enough to give me the idea that there is a demographic out there interested in my appearance. At least, that’s the idea it gives me when the third random guy on the street remarks something like “hey, beautiful,” in the same day.

Otherwise, I don’t find myself attractive. I’m not my own type.

On the other hand, I like myself. I like who I am and my little quirks and my personality. I am intense and caring, and I know I can be a really good friend.

So here’s the thing. Guys ask me on dates, they’ll get my number, call me, text me, go on dates with me, many dates, chase me, etc.But only for a few months (like three at most). But after a couple of months it has faded up to this point. I don’t want to say always, I don’t want to jade the future because maybe it won’t be that way always.

I hear all these stories my friends tell me about seemingly amazing guys doing off the hook things for them because they are just so blinded by “love,” or something like it. Like driving ridiculous distances to get something ridiculous/trivial the girl wants, regularly walking ridiculous distances in the cold just to talk to/see the girl, etc. Like filling a bedroom with rose petals and sweet smelling candles and making dinner for them….

No guy has ever done anything like this for me. No guy has ever said I love you or even I really like you.

I decided to stop waiting and start picking for myself. I like/liked this one guy but he plainly rejected me in so many different ways… it was just that simple. He doesn’t want me.

I don’t understand why no one loves me. But somehow there is no guy going after me, professing his love for me, doing something ridiculously sweet, or just sweet. I feel like I am wasting my life away… like one day I’ll wake up with wrinkles and no one will have loved me when I had soft and tight skin, when I had an open/young heart, when I really really cared about everything….

everyone tells me to focus on my career/studies/life, please don’t give me that.

Answers and Views:

Answer by MANNY PEREZ
You’ll find someone that will love you someday. answer mine please. index?qid=20110130201843AAsMstm&cp=2

Answer by Robert Brown
Sounds like your desperate, try to focus on your studies and career. The rest will fall in place.

Answer by Ahyen Efpee
You just haven’t found the right guy yet. I know that’s a very cliché thing to say, but I think it’s seriously the case here. Also, I don’t mean to offend you by saying this, but everything you’ve said here sounds kind of silly to me coming from someone so young. I could see being cynical and depressed about men if you were maybe 30 years old saying these things, but at 20? I never even kissed a girl until I was 23, and I know that’s a bit late compared to average, but still. I’m not sure how many great guys you expect you should have found already at this very early point in your life.

Answer by Ji sub Jeong
Hi,

Being in a relationship is searching for a soul mate. As much as one can attracted to someone’s external looks, that attraction can only last for so long. I think for a person to have a long and meaningful relationship, he needs to find someone who will be worth spending his time .

Dont be too worried that no one has said anything along the line of I love you or I really like you yet. These words come only from people who are truly interested in you. When you find someone who you feel is rightfully yours and when that person feels along the same line as you do, you’ll hear that word flow out of him in no time.

Also, I think you should be more proud of who you are. I am incredibly surprised every time people say they look hideous or ugly. You are unique and beautiful in your own ways, and there is not a person out in the world who is like you. You are unique and a rare jewel to discover. When you are comfortable of being YOU, everyone will be able to see your own unique form of beauty that resides in you.

I hope you find a right man for yourself in the near future!

Cheers.