husband…..?

beachgirl3360: husband…..?
my husabnd has not really been involved in my pregnancy as much as i wished he would is there a way to get him to read a baby book or something so he knows what the hell is going on, he didnt want to but i am sure there are ways to convince a man do read a book about pregnancy or babys right

Answers and Views:

Answer by Missie
Tell him about it yourself. Having him be involved in your pregnancy means having him be involved with you. If you must read a book read it together — maybe he needs to understand that this is HIS child. Discover the miracle of life together, take parenting classes together. You need to let him know that you expect him to be a part of the babies life from the beginning, and that means the minute the stick turned blue. Make sure you give him plenty of opportunities to feel the baby kick your tummy. All you have to do is be enthusiastic and he will be too. If none of this works, red flags should be going up, he’s not ready to have this baby or he’s scared by the commitment. In that case, counselling is the best option.

Answer by Mommyk232
I wouldn’t bother with it. Most men will not want to read the details of what should happen each week. Altho- he should be interested in discussing what it is your going trhough.

Answer by pinkprincess
bribe him to

Answer by Jerry’s cowgirl
well, tell him he should read one to know what it is like and so that he may know what to do when the baby gets here.

Answer by pleeks
Not with enthusiasm. Your body is carrying the baby, not his. My husband didn’t really understand what I was going through until the baby was born and then with the next pregancy he was more sympathetic.

Answer by emmer
I am pregnant too. My husband HATES to read but I really wanted him to read a new daddy book too. He didn’t want to. So instead of him reading it, we set aside a few minutes each night and I read aloud to him. It is a fun way to get him involved. Even if your husband doesn’t seem too interested I think it is okay to expect him to set aside some baby time.

Answer by msalb
did he want the baby?
If he does sit down with him and talk about the baby,put his hand on your tummy and let him listen to the baby’s heartbeat and let him feel the baby move,he will be into the baby when he feels those things
good luck

Answer by MIchael U
Try to get him to go to a lamze class with you… being with other couples in the same situation might get his interest up

Answer by natmys333
Why not get him to come to the docs with you and ask him on the spot is there anything you need to find out about. Then if he has questions have the doc explain and if he still has questions try to look them up together. Maybe he just isn’t into reading. Also take a tour together in the maternity ward of the hospital. Also show him all the babies, get him involved it doesn’t have to be through a book maybe he is a hands on guy!Good Luck!

Answer by froggyfrogplay
it just depends on how far along you are. some men take longer to get used to the idea of a baby. give him a little time to adjust. good luck.

Answer by Ashley P
Hehe.
I bought my husband the book “My boys can swim!” He didn’t read it… so it was a waste of money. Most guys just don’t care as much as what we would like them to. Its not that they *don’t* care… but to them, its just not as “real”. Like… if they can’t see it, its not there… you know? Don’t get too worked up about it.
I am due in 2 weeks and my husband has had his moments of caring, but 98% of the time… he’s acted like he couldn’t care less. He really did NOTHING as far as putting the nursery together. It was pretty much all me (and a little bit of my dad… who painted the nursery). My husband though….. just basically sat around throughout my whole pregnancy doing his own thing. He will come around eventually (after the baby is born…. *hopefully*)

Answer by SimplyLovely
Just because your husband is not as excitied the way you are about your preganacy does not mean you force the poor guy to read a book. Being in the delivery room is enough for a man to handle. Try buying a book you would like him to check out and leave it laying around. He might just pick it up and take a look.

Answer by superkisses86
yes there Is..1st of all It’s important for him to get involved..my hubby goes to every drs. appt. rubs & talks to my tummy every night, and we even have a fetal monitor…idk how far along u are, but i’m almost 18 wks. on Sat. and my marriage is better then ever..also take him out looking for baby things..ease him into it..maybe he’s a little scared…try and talk to him, re-assure him of things, even try his family!

Answer by SubJ
I am sure he has his own interests in life. Reading about pregnancy may not be his cup of tea. It is not necessary that one spouse shud do what one’s spouse wants him to do. Please do not nag him.

Answer by ricktheirish1967
He’s probably a little anxious about becoming a father….not sure if he’ll be a good one, not sure if he can handle the responsibility, etc.. At some point when you’re discussing something not baby related, walk up to him, wrap your arms around him, give him a kiss and tell him he’s going to be a great father. Do that once a week or so, especially if he does something that you think proves he has the ability to be a good father. As his anxiety decreases, he’ll want to be more involved.

But, even if he never reads a single word about pregnancy or babies, the first time he holds your child in his arms, he’ll know that this is what he was meant for and all his anxiety will melt away.

Answer by eddygordo19
He is a man, not a nanny. Just throw food, beer and sex at him, but not necessarily in that order.

Really, think of him as resource. Make sure he brings home his paycheck, fixes stuff around the house, takes out the garbage and picks up his dirty clothes. Other than that, you are setting yourself up for disappointment by trying to teach a fish to live out of water.

Answer by retardturtle
doubt it! youll have to teach him….hell only glance at the book & forget what he read….remember….were guys….not too brite, so dont put too much on us at one time. well listen..but show patience.tell him how much you love it when he shows intrest….

Answer by sick of him
It’s going to be hard to get him to read a book. But, I put a poster on the fridge showing the stages the baby was going through week by week. That was good. He would go grab something, and ask me “how many weeks are you?” and I’d tell him and he’d read the little blurb below the picture and he’d be like “damn, the baby is getting big”. A picture and 1 sentence per week, that’s all they really need.

Answer by t m
don’t push it.. men get very weird. maybe he’s scared. ask him to go to the Dr during the next visit…maybe to see an ultra sound.

Answer by CaliMa
If you can find a way to get your Husband to read a baby book let me know how you did it I am expecting twins in about 6 weeks and my husband thumbs through the books about becoming parents of multiples but he doesnt read the book though I tried to get him to read a book and he said I am not new to being a Father but I told him you never had multiples before,he’s involved in my pregnancy when he isn’t away(hes a marine)

Answer by Beachgirl3361
mine wouldnt look either haha its ok though as long as he knows its his and watns to take care of her they never understand what we go through when werer pregnant not completely anyways