How would you feel if your husband took a 2nd wife?

Mia: How would you feel if your husband took a 2nd wife?
They say men are men and some can’t just be with one woman. In the west a man can’t have more than one wife but some of them cheat alot. In Islam a man can have up to 4 wives but doing anything out of wedlock is illegal. So to the muslim ladies how would you feel and go about it if your husband/future husband took a second wife?
@soupNazi It happens but it’s not that common. I only know a couple of Muslims with more than one wife.

Answers and Views:

Answer by Offside Trick O.S.T
Wat God has Allowed no human can forbid it

Answer by →Stranger←
i think its ok if the other woman is in need of help and protection.

Answer by Banaa: Who is thee that sits under the Fig Tree?
my husband can have as many wives as he wants. I’m just not gonna be one of them.

Answer by omar
It’s better the man have two wives than all the Adultry and prostitution and bullsh1t.

Answer by Marissa Hathaway
assalamualaikum, i would have to share the husband and be kind towards the second wife too. and patient too. husbands must not compare love and love their wives equally. sorry i cant help much sister. salam

Answer by Soup Nazi
Isn’t that common in Islam?

Answer by ★(Alana)★
When he is with me he would not need anyone else. He would not need a second wife when he has me :D/ Personally if my future husband even considered this notion I would feel offended and ask him “What do you feel lacking in me that you would need it from someone else?” hahha I would love to see how he would answer that one 😛
InshAllah I would never have to encounter this situation and would tell him how I feel about this before we even married.

Answer by Ates
Most Arabs do. GOD BLESS YOU.

Answer by Anees Ebrahem
if i were a girl with a hsuband gettin a second wife id get a second husband >:D

Answer by adu
Why do Arabs always moan about Israel?
When:
1) It was Arab treachery in joining with the non-Muslim British to fight the Muslim Ottoman Empire that cause the creation of Israel and the Palestinian problem
2) Arabs consider non-Arab non-white Muslims inferior to them
3) The Quran says Arabs are the worst in kufr and nifaq (9:97)
Why?

Answer by Moses
How can he take a second wife when the quran is clear that you can not. The second verse tells us that we can not do what the first verse alludes to.

4:3And if ye fear that ye will not deal fairly by the orphans, marry of the women, who seem good to you, two or three or four; and if ye fear that ye cannot do justice then one or that your right hands possess. Thus it is more likely that ye will not do injustice.
4:129Ye will not be able to deal equally between wives, however much ye wish. But turn not altogether away, leaving her as in suspense. If ye do good and keep from evil, lo! Allah is ever Forgiving, Merciful.

Answer by Jess
Ha I just talked with my husband about this last night actually.
Now not to consider it, but I’m a convert (we live in America) and this thing really confused me, I didn’t understand how a man could do that, or how a woman could let that happen. He then explained to me the rules, he, who has been all over the Middle East, has never seen a guy with more than two wives and they got a long really well.
So a man cannot get a second wife because he is unhappy with his first one-that is haram. Before a man can even obtain his second wife he has to talk with his first wife and with a sheik. If his wife does not want him to have a second wife, or if he thinks for a second she is just saying yes to please him but doesn’t really want him to do it-then he can’t. Also a sheik advises the man to have a perfect marriage before he does a second one. So what normally happens is the woman is in really bad shape, like has no family to take care of her, and is on the streets. Sort of the type of women that you see in America that have no choice but to turn to prostitution. He then talks to his wife, if she agrees it is okay for him to take care of her, then he’ll marry her. If the first wife doesn’t want him to have sex with the second-and he agrees with that-then that’s fine he just has to tell the second one before they get married.
Now dealing with sex-he is not allowed to have sex with one wife, while the other one is under the same roof. So many times he has to have a house for each wife-four wifes=four houses.
Also with this there is so man yguidelines he has to follow (like a huge book). Now if he does him and his first wife will get huge rewards in heaven for helping out the woman. But their intentions have to be good. If they are this whole system will work out good-if he’s just doing it to have a nice piece of tail-it won’t go very smoothly.
After I heard all of this I really started to understand it-my husband and I are really young and madly in love so I could never allow this to happen at the moment. For all I know we might end up taking in a woman and her family later down the road…But for the woman that could and do, I have so much respect for them. Because they really are just helping out another woman (one who probably has children).

I know that was a way long answer to your question, but I just wanted to clear up the way that people see this whole polygamy thing in Islam.

Answer by angelfly
Quran says men are greedy. that doesnt leave out muslim men really! how is having a second wife not cheating? one night with the first wife…then the next night with the second….isnt that cheating? the one who cannot love one person with all his heart is nothing but half the man.

Answer by f.a.f.a.n’s mommy
If he takes another wife, I will leave him, seriously…
My husband works 12 hours a day, 4-7 days a week (depends on the schedule)
He just have less time to be with family, sometimes I feel the time he gives for family just not enough, but he needs working that way to fulfill all family expenses.
If he takes another wife, how he would manage his time to 2 families?

Answer by MrsSnape
Like some of the ladies said ..he can have another wife, but I will leave him. I would rather be single than share my husband.
I will make sure to tell him this before marriage though 🙂