How to stop loving someone and get over them?

~PolkaDot~: How to stop loving someone and get over them?
I broke up with my boyfriend of nearly three years. I did it for a good reason and things had been wrong for a long time. But now we are apart and even though I know I did the right thing I can’t stop loving him. I want to move on and meet someone else but can’t. It’s like I have loved him for so long that I don’t know how to do any different; loving him is the norm for me. What do I do? I just want to get on with my life.

Answers and Views:

Answer by Kiwi
Time is really the only thing that can help, in my experience. There is a period of grieving you have to endure any time you lose someone, even if only by breakup. You have to learn to adjust to life without them.

Just try to hang around friends that can get your mind off it. Or absorb yourself in a hobby or something creative that you love.

Answer by tina
i agree with kiwi

Answer by SkuNkii
Its kinda depends on why you broke up with him ?
Go over the reason then you might find a way to get over him

But if you don’t.. jst stop thinking about bf for a while and only think about friends
that way you wont b lonely, and might be a good way to start a new relationship

Answer by Ryan
Hmm you can start by throwing away/deleting all pictures of him. I did it on an unrequited crush, I like the person a lot less.

Answer by Eternal Inheritance
I wouldn’t look for someone right now. Take sometime for yourself. Keep yourself busy. Be with your friends. Go for a run. Volunteer. Do extra hours at work. Do whatever you can do to keep your mind off of him and then you will eventually with time be over him.

Answer by 🙂
it takes time to get over someone.

well i’d suggest to listen to songs 🙂 especially by the script cause their songs are so moving but i’m not sure if it would work for you to get over someone.

You will.. soon enough get over him but don’t move on just yet. Don’t find another guy because he could just be a “rebound” without you knowing 🙂

just be patient.. enjoy life 😡

Answer by tincan62
while dwell in the past? get going and find u another b/f

Answer by Chase
listen. i know exactly how you feel. my girlfriend and i broke up a few months ago and i thought that no one would ever love me the way she did or that i would love anyone the way i loved her. it was hard for me to move on. it really was i was so down. but then a beautiful thing called time progressed, and i have a new girlfriend who is amazing. however, my ex is still on the back of my mind so remember that he’ll always be there, but its how you think about it that makes it hurt or just a good memory. dont slump around missing him. just get going and soon, you’ll see that everything will work out for you as it did for me. i know it’s rough, but time will heal and so will keeping yourself busy. and there are a hell of a lot more guys out there. its hard to see that right now, however, it’ll happen. good luck with this.

Answer by The Deuce
You need to keep busy and try new things. You are used to a routine so you need to switch that up in order to help you move on. This is the perfect time to force yourself to do something new. It doesn’t really matter what it is. Sign up for a baseball team, join a drama club, volunteer at a charity, take up hiking, take a night course at a community college, etc. These things will take your mind off your ex and will also give you the opportunity to make yourself a more rounded person and meet new people.

It’s really tough to get over someone. I just broke up Friday and there are so many mood swings. You just need to ride it out and force yourself to get moving and try something different. In time, it will be easier, honest.

Answer by Incognito
As hard as this sounds never get back with him. You have a attachment to someone you were intamate with. Pray! And you can move on, really you can. Remember it wasn’t true love so go out and find true love. I don’t know what the reason for you dumping him, but, he probably hurt you. Love doesn’t ever HURT it’s partner!!!!!!!!!!! EVER!!!!
You need to be strong and think with your heart. You’ll find the right person for you.

Answer by frettyjawed
Let your heart run it’s course. It’s gonna hurt but the pain will go away someday. Believe me, I’ve gone through the same thing.

Answer by MESSENGER
Stop forcing yourself to try so hard to stop feeling what you feel. The
time will come when you won’t feel this way any longer. Each of us have a different way of getting over the past. Do healthy and happy things for yourself. Try something different every week. When you think of him and those feelings come up don’t force them away but try
to start the weaning away from the thoughts that are painfull. Friends
and family can help and meeting new people just for the new stimulation can help. Life is always changing. Your life will change too.