How important is sexual intercourse to you?

timetraveller: How important is sexual intercourse to you?
Could you love and be in love with someone and not have sexual intercourse?

Could you committ your life to someone and not have that as part of your life?

Answers and Views:

Answer by Flights
i think it is very important. i have tried the whole friends with benefits thing a few times and i just dont feel right about it. i have to be in a relationship for sure. i do not know if i could commit to someone without a sex life. if that other person is worth the try than yeah see if you can do so. masturbation and foreplay do get old after awhile.

Answer by CogitoErgoCogitoSum
I do not think that you can love someone romantically and not lust for them. I think failing to lust the person you claim to love is ultimately insulting and unhealthy for any relationship.

I think sex is overrated. Its fun, pleasurable, dont get me wrong. But I dont need it. I am perfectly fine being in a romantic monogamous relationship with someone, having mutually lustful desires, but not actually performing sexual activity.

I think you can love and be in love and not have sex. But the desire to do so is what is important.

Consider a dirty skank who is known for having had sex before. Say she choses to stop that promiscuous lifestyle and date for love, instead. No matter how nice and patient the guy is, not matter how much he cares for sex or doesnt care for sex… he will always wonder about her true affections and motivations… for having been willing to put out for lesser men… but in claiming to love, wont anymore. A guy would doubt her loyalty and lustful desires for him… and would be insulted.

You cannot enter into a relationship and be sexual at any point, then to fall back onto celibacy, without drawing concern. Imagine if your boyfriend quit wanting to have sex with you… just doesnt “want it” from you any more. How would you feel? Its far easier to know he is a virgin or that he wants to wait until he knows you better. Its not so easy for a woman if her guy just up and quit.

Im sorry to say, no matter how nice the guy is, no matter how much he respects you or wants to make something with you… if youre not a virgin, and especially if you have been promiscuous in the past, he WILL expect consistent sex. This is a bad trap for any young woman to fall into… I say stay celibate.

I can do without sex. Sometimes its hard to, but I manage. Its a choice. I am capable of turning women down. It doesnt define me and isnt a basis for a relationship, but it an integral part of a successful life-time committed romance.

Its important, yes, but sex should neither be the basis for a relationship nor should it be the basis for ending one.

Answer by Glow wings
This question has recently emerged in a very personal way.
I am 60 years old, my husband is 50. This has never been an issue until now. I don’t know that it is an issue, so much as it is something I have begun to feel inadequate about. Over the last few years, I have progressively been losing the desire for sex, period. To the point now, that I really don’t look forward to it at all.
I love my husband of 25 years and I am still in love with him. I want to please him very much. I just don’t have the fire anymore. I just don’t know what to do…If I remained celibate for the rest of my life, I would not miss it!
So, yes it is more than possible. My husband is a very patient man and I am very fortunate.

Answer by Paul J
well, i am a 23 year old virgin, so i am pretty used to a lack of intercourse. but, if there was someone special in my life, there would probably be intercourse. if you love the person and are waiting for marriage, thats one thing, there is a goal. but no intercourse indefinitely, no. a vow of celibacy is for priests and monks who don’t have relationships other than their one with God and their congregations.

Answer by Third P
It is important to me because it is the human natural way to procreate. It is the natural way of preservation our species. Without it, i don’t see life will continue.

Thanks for asking. Have a great day!

Answer by ♫ Mad Luv ♫
depends if i’m with that person and we were doing it. and something happened like an health reason. yes
if it was purly choice then no!

it must be apart of my life and my partner’s life so i have no worries

Answer by “DJ”
Despite wat people say its important

To have sex is the second strongest instinct in the human body.

The first strongest instinct is to stay alive.

Answer by Meagan
It’s very nice, but it’s not absolutely necessary. (Oral is better, lol!) But seriously, I was a virgin until I was 22, and I was in love a couple of times before then with guys I didn’t have sex with. As far as committing to someone without intercourse, it would depend on the person, the reason for not having intercourse, and if he were worth it.