How does one avoid sex when starting off a long term relationship?

: How does one avoid sex when starting off a long term relationship?
I have a boyfriend. He likes sex and I like sex. However, we want the relationship to be long term and if we engage in sex I have a fear that things will be different between us.

Answers and Views:

Answer by Happy Gramps
Very wise of you…..sex is supposed to be for those married to each other, as God commands; if you two are serious about each other, then marriage would be needed first before intimacy; if you cannot or don’t want to wait for marriage, then maybe the relationship is not that serious……………………………..think about it

Answer by pms247
Get on birth control first. Wait as long as you can. May be agree on a time and a place and make sure you are on the pill and do it. : ) It probably wont work out but it wont be b/c of sex. Its usually b/c of a jealous fight or money or cheating. Sex

Answer by doodles
Talk about what you want from your relationship. Decide your limits together and stick to them.
Keep your dates to public places, movies, bowling etc.
Try volunteering somewhere together.
Avoid spending too much time at his place or your place alone.
Get to know each other friends and relatives and actively participate in activities with them, as a group.
Double date.

Answer by Orlando Delacruz
lmao how is it u like sexand want to have a long term relationship without sex if you both have had sex before but with whom? not going to work

Answer by tita chica
Thats is very smart but how do you know its going to be long term? You cant fortell the future like that.. I think you should wait a few months.. If you guys are totally in love than go for it.. If you have sex before being in love than it could screw up things//… Good luck! Not having sex with your boyfriend n someone you care about very dearly is so hard!!! Because all you want to do is just show them how much you care for them..

Answer by bcs_user
Speaking as a man, I will tell you that you are very smart to not “give it up” so easily. If you want a man to really, really love you, portraying yourself as “easy” almost certainly guarantees that any good man will pass over you, and the men who are interested in you would just be interested for the sex. When they reach the point in their life where they want a real girlfriend, or to think about getting married, it won’t be with you.

In fact, when I was single, my biggest concern was not to meet a woman, but to NOT meet a sh*tty woman. When I did meet a woman that I was interested in, I always asked the all-important questions, such as what they did for a living, what their goals were, what they like to do for fun, and if they had any children. If I didn’t like what I heard, then goodbye. Also, there were women that I met, and they wanted to “hook up” that same night, or women that I dated a few times, and they already wanted sex. And of course I said no way (and did not have sex with them).

Screening out all the losers worked very well for me, because I did not have a “real” girlfriend until I was 27 years old, and now I am 30 and we are married, and I am much happier than my friends and co-workers who had many girlfriends and years (decades?) of casual sex.

One of the reasons why I love my wife so much, and decided to get married with her is because when we were boyfriend and girlfriend, we did everything in steps, to make sure we really love each other. After we were together for more than 4 months and knew that we really loved each other, then we started to have a sexual relationship.

So in summary, don’t be “easy”, or else the man will never take you seriously. Especially if he is a man that has been with many women in his lifetime.