MeaCulpa: How do you “move on” after breaking your resolutions yet again?
Mine involved smoking, coffee, avoiding processed foods and more. Currently I’m functioning with all my “addictions” well satisfied and feel like a failure on this level. From past experience when I live with this negative feeling it’s completely counter productive to any success in fact my appetite for these things increases. I know I need to lighten up and not beat myself up but that’s a challenge right now.
Thanks so much for any insight!
Answers and Views:
Answer by Pineapple Shortcake
Set smaller goals. Instead of trying to give up smoking, for instance, set a reasonable limit to how many cigarettes you smoke a day. Look for healthier replacements until you can keep cutting back to none at all.
Maybe you have to narrow your resolutions into one attainable goal. Start with coffee or smoking, it’s easier to attain desired goal when you focused only on one resolution at a time. When you succeed, follow up with the next resolution on the list and so on.Answer by Rhonda S
To “resolute” is to resolve.
I too have in the past made New Year Resolutions that I would quit smoking, eat better, and exercise but I have always failed too.
This year I decided after talking to my doctor that I would not set the date for January 1 because of all the stress we encounter over the holidays.
I have made plans to fulfill my goals and have set a date to quit smoking in March of this year.
I joined the YMCA, I am starting by cutting down on the amount I smoke until I can get down to 5 a day. At that point it won’t be so hard to quit and for me, none of the drugs or nicotine replacements work so once I’m down to 5 a day; I will be able to stop without so many cravings. Cold Turkey is the only way for me personally and I can’t do that until I smoke less so I’m giving myself time and not considering anything a failure but more of a choice I either did or did not make when I wanted to.
If you think too much about will power, that will also mess you up because it is a choice. A very hard choice because of addiction and the easy part is to think of all the people in their early 40’s or so that are now dying from smoking. I’m 41 so I am truly afraid.
Don’t think of yourself as a failure or beat yourself up because you didn’t do it when you wanted to. Just think of it as bad timing and the sooner you start to think more about the goals, the sooner you will be able to give yourself another chance to make the right decision.
Other than coffee in the AM, I gave up caffeine a long time ago.
If you give up everything else with caffeine, it will be easier to stop drinking too much coffee.
I have started to keep a notebook and pen on hand at all times. Every time I want or do light up, I write down the date, time, reason why I either wanted it or lit up, and what triggered me wanting one. Also rate the degree of the craving.
Now I am also looking at the clock to purposely make myself wait a certain amount of time between cigarettes.
Sounds as if we are going through this at the same time so I hope this helps and best wishes for us both…
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