How do you go about a wedding when neither the groom or the bride are on good terms with the groom’s parents?

Paul: How do you go about a wedding when neither the groom or the bride are on good terms with the groom’s parents?
The bride and groom are not on good terms with the groom’s parents. If the groom’s parents are invited to the wedding, the stress level will be off the charts for quite a few people. The grooms parents will be the “dark cloud” over everything. What should the bride and groom do?! Invite them to JUST the ceremony? Invite them to both the ceremony and the reception (out of…”kindness”)? Or do not invite them at all?

Answers and Views:

Answer by fizzy stuff
Do what the groom wants. He is a big boy now and should be able to make a decision on this.

Answer by New England Babe
Don’t invite them at all.

There are a lot of people that think the parents should be invited no matter what but if there is no happiness towards the couple being married then what is the point?

My hubby and I did not invite his mother. Truth is the way his mother treats us and most especially her own son if he had insisted on inviting her I would not have married him. That ceremony was about us and inviting someone who is disrespectful and would rather the marriage not even happen doesn’t deserve to be there even if they are the parents.

At best if we for some reason did invite his mother we would have made it very clear that she was to keep her nasty comments to herself and if she could attend with class and dignity and remember it was about us as a couple and not her then she should not attend.

You can’t get your wedding back and being nervous because of a guest no matter who that guest is really isn’t the way to start out on your new life.

Answer by Halo Mom
You invited them, if they come they come
If they do not, then it’s okay
You place them at the groom parents table
You hope for the best

You invited them because they are his parents and even if you are not good terms, they are the reason why he is living. With out his parents, he would not be here

It they are a dark cloud, then let it be
Do not seat them any where near others that will have problems with them

You do not have to spend a lot of time with people that are not at your table

Answer by MagnusMoss
Unless they actually abused or neglected him, they have the right to be invited.