How do you expect a teenager to act?

Adewale Akinnuoye-Agbaje: How do you expect a teenager to act?
I read questions and answer questions in my opinion and I get the thumb down. From my experience on this forum teenagers are expected not to ever have sex, never try drugs, never try alcohol and get a perfect school score.

I think it is part of growing up to experiment with these.

If you have no kids what do you expect the average teenager to be like and if you have kids who are teenagers how are they when it comes to these things?

Answers and Views:

Answer by Shaena
basically teens should be expected to finsih their education through college and not focus on boys too much. too much focusing on boys will just make them slack off and as for drugs. there should be no drugs in this world cuz its just stupid and makes them look stupid. im gonna raise my daughter well and make sure i talk to her about the dangers of sex drugs and hanging around the wrong crowd period. shes gonna be on lock. those who focus on school and not sex become most educated and wealthy

Answer by mpn_1990
I expect teens to maintain the rights of others. I don’t expect teens to do drugs, but who am I to stop someone from ruining their own life. And there’s nothing wrong with *safe* sex unless you’re a religious nut.

Answer by Spongeluv11
You expect us to try drugs, have sex and alcohol.
But heres a little secret: Some of us are good kids.
*gasp* I know!

Answer by me.
i think most people expect teens to be wild and out of control EXCEPT THEIR PARENTS!

it’s usually parents who have the crazy high expectations.

Answer by Arthur R
I think some one needs to come to your house and show you a thing or two, and then the cops should put you in jail for talking shit all the time like mentioning to blow up buildings and kill all types of people then tell kids its ok to drink. I think you need a mental counselor, and maybe five years…

Just some things he said…>Mind your own business, told this to a 12 year old girl about mom having affair >she can have sex with anyone she wants… Jesus>he said this to a minor.>They are having a good time….What else > he said this to a thirteen year old about drinking with kids at 17

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Answer by Zanzibar
Good question! I agree 100% that experimenting and making mistakes is a part of growing up. In fact, I recently read an article that stated that people who don’t become sexually active at the normal age (16-17 years old) are developmentally stunted (unless they have sex at a very young age, which also causes problems). People learn from mistakes. Bad relationships help us know what to look for in good relationships. It’s a tricky thing.

Answer by kim j
Some people grow up in the environment where they try all of what you said, or some people just do it from peer pressure, fun or curiosity.

You are extremely familiar…

Answer by Blue_roses
I think experementing with certian things help make you grow as a person and it also gives you life lessons. However some come with a price, like having unprotected sex…its stupid…but teens have sex anyway and i really dont have a problem with it…its natural and humans were made to do it anyway. Things that could kill you however *GHB, Herioin* can kill you on the first dose so why die trying then to live knowing that you did the right thing and can teach your child the consiquences of your actions. I get thumbs down all the time, some people just cant handle the truth. No one is perfect and as my own personal saying goes “human is to error as fooling around on purpose is fun”

Answer by Lil*fab
It IS what teenagers are suppsoed to do. Being an Average teenager DOESN’T mean having sex, trying drugs, drinking alcohol etc…Children are raised in bad enviorments and start trying things they are not suppsoed to try. When I do have kids, they will act like they are suppsoed to. I will NOT allow them to go to wild, no adults parties. I WILL allow them to have the little boyfriend-girlfriend realtionships as long as there is no sexual activity involed. I think the boyfriend girlfriend thing is cute!

Answer by FifthSonata
Teengers aren’t expected to be perfect, but I think parents want them to be without recalling what it was like for themselves as teenagers. It’s not fair to expect a child to be perfect and have ridiculously impossible expectations, making it impossible for the child to feel adequate and loved. As a consequence they might get involved with bad things.

I don’t think doing drugs has to be part of experimentation–even getting caught one time with pot can ruin their future because of that one event, no matter if they’ve learned their lesson.

I do admit, I expect the average teenager to be moody and difficult–they’re experimenting with independence and often against their parents’ wishes, learning right from wrong, and testing their boundaries. They’re learning about life and encountering problems they don’t yet have enough experience to understand the consequences, yet think they DO. It’s a hard thing to find independence while being guided by parents.

I think what makes the difference is being educated on all of the things you mention so they CAN make the right decisions, because ultimately all of it is their choice. If we teach them the consequences of everything, while they will not be perfect by far, they can make better decisions and resist peer pressure.
As a teen, I did experiment with things you mention, and all the while I obtained a great GPA and was heavily involved with extracurricular activities. I credit my mother greatly for teaching me the consequences of these experimentations so I knew when something was going too far.

It’s amazing how education and love can make a difference for a child…

Answer by lavender danyell
there’s always a time to try things and teens usually try it to get it over with. BTW what the heck is your name?

Answer by marlu
Hopefully to be educated and not to want to try sex drugs and alcohol.

Answer by Noel K
nowadays, many abnormal things become normal. we don’t need to experiment bad things to grow up.

Answer by d.abshier
I believe you make a point. However what happens 5 years later when those exact teenagers are porn stars, alcoholics, and drug addicts. Maybe we should have thought this one through! Yes, we should have!

Answer by Amelia J
i have a teen he sometimes gets angry at dinner mostly they should get a perfect school score maybe not PERFECT but they should not have alchohol when they are grownups also sex they should do when they are 19/20 and ^ (up) But they should never ever try drugs not even when | are grownups it is a seriously bed thing. They can get really angry aswell.