Abra B: How do you commit to someone knowing you’ll never be “in love” …?
Most of the guys I know wouldn’t care if you are “in love” or not as long as you give him the sex and the housekeeping and don’t roam. How do you get to the point where you know you’ll never be in love, but realize that its time to settle and just make the most of it? I know people do it (not just women) and its probably the most standard form of marriage. How do people get to that point where they stop fighting it?
Answers and Views:
Answer by David
I’m sorry, I understand why you feel that way, but you shouldn’t marry someone for that. It may take years and years, but you will eventually find someone that you really are in love with, and it will be worth holding out for. And I don’t believe that it’s the most standard form of marriage. I would say that people being in love is the most standard form, followed by getting married because of having a baby on the way and things like that.
I think people begin to realize that the idea of a ‘perfect relationship’ is a bit like winning the lottery. It’s incredibly difficult to find. So instead of being alone and childless all our lives we try to settle for second-best. It’s never quite the same as the big fantasy love inside our heads, but if you get along with each other fairly well, and have things in common. It might just be enough to keep you happy. It may not last forever but at least you had somebody to share a little bit of your life journey with. But I don’t think you should stay in a situation like that forever.
Eventually, everything runs it’s course. 🙂
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