How do I tell the family about our 4th pregnancy when they have already expressed that we should be done?

Kristy: How do I tell the family about our 4th pregnancy when they have already expressed that we should be done?
My husband and I are thrilled but with a large nibby family, who BTW has expressed that we should NOT have more children. How do we tell them without them putting me to tears worrying about what everyone else thinks?

Any ideas would really help me. DH says that this is our family and we shoul;d be happy about this new life. I am so stressed over the announcement reactions!

Answers and Views:

Answer by karken1992
Just tell them how happy you are and tell them you expect them to respect your wishes regardless of their opinion.

Answer by 22 weeks with baby #1(Noah)
Your husband is right. This is YOUR family and bringing a new life into it should be an exciting time. It is none of their concern whether or not you should have more children, you and your husband obviously want more and that’s that.

Don’t stress! Just tell them and if they want to throw a fit and not be a part of this special time then it’s their loss.

Answer by Jessica H
Who cares what they think!! This is your time to be happy and enjoy being pregnant. If they want to voice negative opinions, ignore them. What they say shouldn’t affect how you feel towards this beautiful little baby you are bringing into the world.

Answer by missdeenamarie
just tell them… i was in the same boat and i still am in the same boat this is my third im 36 weeks and they keep saying to be done but its my life so i dont really care what they say

Answer by MissSweetie
My family is a lot like yours. We’ve got 2 kids but I don’t think we’re through yet. 🙂 I totally agree with your husband and hope you can change so that you’re not worried about it. He is right; it’s YOUR family, YOUR life, and your body. If you want to have a houseful, that’s your decision and no one else’s. I’m sure once you’ve done your announcing, your family will change their minds and welcome your newest addition with welcome arms. 🙂 Congrats to you!

Answer by Katy
Well as long as you can afford the new child and love him/her and you are not using your family as baby sitters etc then they really have no say. As long as you are providing for your children and are a stable house hold, the more the merrier (to an extent lol)

Congrats on your new baby, and I think you should not worry about their reaction if all is true that i said above then i would tell them it is really non of their concern. Try to be polite at first but if you still just keep getting flack then just tell them how it is. More power to you!

Merry Christmas, what a great gift! Enjoy

Answer by forever5
First off, Congratulations!!! Don’t worry about what they say, as long as you are not asking them to raise your children, they don’t get an opinion anyway.

Have your kids make the announcement. Let them tell the family that they are excited about being big brothers/sisters. I would hope that they wouldn’t give a negative reaction to children.

Answer by Mommy of four
are they taking care of your kids? are they paying for them? If not then they need to just shut the heck up. If you take responsibility for your children, if you pay for them, love and care for them then its none of their business. The sooner you tell them you’re pregnant and make it known its none of their business how many times you decide to become pregnant the better. I had to lay the law down and tell my in laws it was none of their business after I had my first! 4 babies later and my inlaws are now pleased as punch with all of their grandchildren. Just as I’m sure your family will be pleased with your new addition 🙂 Best of luck and congrats!

Answer by Bridget S
well omg
i am 14 years old
i have 4 brothers
and 6 sisters
okay
so yah i feel like wow
and then my mom is pregnant again with her 12 child
after she just had a child about 1 years ago
omg my brother was so mad, when my little sister found the pregnatacy test in the bathroom
but how my mom told my brother Jermey and my sister kelly was that it was an accident, and they dont have the money o get aborded
and yah well my mom told me the truth that they were trying to make it even between the boys and girls so that is why my mom is preg. again
but yah just say that it was a accident, and you cant afford abortion

Answer by LovingLife
I’m with your husband. Who cares what people think?! Unless they are paying your bills and taking care of your children, they have no right to judge, and you should not let them worry you. If you choose to tell them, tell them only when you’re ready, and let them know that you respect that they have different opinions but that you and your husband are very happy and you want your family to be supportive and not judgmental. Not sure how they’ll react to that, but that’s really all you can do. Good luck, congratulations, and I hope everything works out for you.

Answer by arnie
I have two children and just miscarried our third. My husband and I were estatic at the news we were going to be adding to the family even if it wasn’t planned. My mothers response was less than supportive with what would you want to do that for?? After I lost this pregnancy it was “oh well It was the best anyway”, the best for who?
I have never been so hurt in all my life, but we want another child so we will try again and I don’t give a hoot what she thinks. I won’t be telling her next time and when she does find out and she says something hurtful I will be telling her not to bother I have all the family I need.
It’s your life and you and your husband are happy and it shouldn’t matter what anyone thinks, and I would be saying that to them. Tell them the good news and if they don’t feel the same way they can keep their unsupportive comments to themselves. You have kids and husband that love you that’s all that matters