How do I stop worrying about my fiancée looking at other women?

Candice M. Watkins, RN: How do I stop having anxiety about my fiancée looking at other women?
I have a wonderful, loving fiancée that I am deeply in love with. W have a great relationship. But…I obsess about him looking at or thinking about other women. I know he would never cheat…but I can’t cope with the other women having the attention I feel only I should get. I know that its normal for a man to look and even fantasize about others, but I can’t stop thinking about it and my self esteem its so low! What should I do?

Answers and Views:

Answer by Royaldaughter
No, it’s not normal for him to fantasize, etc. If you will be marrying, then you may want to wait if he has wandering eyes.

Answer by LIPPIE
It isn’t his problem it is yours and you are the one that needs to see a Dr. You need to work on yourself and build your self esteem. You can stop thinking about it, if you wanted to but then you wouldn’t have an excuse to have the attention that throwing a fit will generate.

Answer by mademoiselle
Well as an RN, I would think that you would be doing the same to doctors.

Answer by keith21
Talk to him and tell him that you don’t like it when he is looking and fantasizing about other women when you are around. And don’t feel guilty about telling him about this because every man should know not to have wandering eyes when you are around the person you love.

Answer by thє вluє wαndєrєr
Dont listen to these christian fundie goody two shoes. Theyre nincompoops. Its natural for men to fantacise about multiple women. Stop worrying so damn much. Just relax. Take some valium and wash it down with a few glasses of wine. Youre making too much of this.

Answer by opinionated
my wife of 19 years said she would worry once i stop looking
don’t kid your self,you look at other guys also

Answer by Another Crone
Work on your self esteem. Finding a fiancee and getting married while you do not feel good about yourself is very troubling. You are your own issue.

Whether he is good or bad or flirtatious or faithful will drive you nuts until you are well sat in yourself. Work on you. Then you will trust your own decisions. Your anxiety is not really about the fact that there are other women in the world. There always will be. We can only hope that. The human species depends on it.