How do I start loving and respecting my self?

vetalklas: How do I start loving and respecting my self?
How do I start loving and respecting my self? I hate my self,I think I am comlete loser.I always talk to my self bad.I always put my self down. I am in really good shape so don’t tell me exercise or whatever but I really need help. How do I change this and start respecting and loving my self?Because if I won’t no body also will.
I need this very much.

Answers and Views:

Answer by Mr.Moo
go to church

Answer by DuhCommonsence
you can start by asking your self what do u like about your self and move up difine your best things and get better at those

Answer by Esther
When you know who you are in Christ, you will discover the true meaning of yourself. Don’t walk along the path of “self discovery”, it’s full of potholes. Jesus said this, “he who seeks to keep his life will lose it…but he that loses his life for my sake, will find it.”

If you come to know Jesus, and God’s word, and give your life to Him, for His good keeping, that is when you will discover who it is you are truly meant to be, because God’s plan for you is a perfect one.

Answer by ryan5439
my problem is too high self esteem almost approching narcisism(sp) I cant relate.

Answer by amy n
find a really good friend if you can ,you only live once, so be happy , at least thats what i’m trying, good luck, and remember if you dont then you are right no one else will

Answer by Kyra P
The fact that you are willing to ask this question means you are headed in the right direction!
You know you are worth it! Listen, life is a gift, that I know for sure. It is short and we have to make the most of everyday and if you are bashing yourself instead of finding what is best within yourself and lifting yourself up then you are wasting precious time. You are your best friend and your strongest ally. Look within yourself and find the strength, it is there. We all make mistakes along our path of life and learning from the mistakes is key in life. We would not grow and learn if we did not make mistakes. You are special and you know that, we all are. Find something that is important to you and contribute in a positive way to the world around you. Find joy in what you have to offer others and you will grow and realize your inconceivable and infinite potential as a human being. Don’t forget all of the advantages you have that many others don’t and do not squander those advantages.
You are wonderful, just believe it with your whole self!

Answer by pilgrimchd
Actually, it’s my observation that your problem is that you love yourself too much. If you think about it, you are preoccupied with you — “I hate myself” “I think…” “I always”. The solution to your problem is to focus on others first — serve them, meet their needs, encourage them.

Actually it starts with God; the greatest command is to love Him with all your haert, soul, mind, and strength. The second command is to love others. It has been my experience that when I’m focusing on those two goals, my own self-image takes care of itself.

Answer by djf103
like you i was there to not long ago,i’m 53.
after 2 suicide attempts i knew things had to change.
first after another hospital stay i went to a mental health
clinic for help,i still don’t think i’m mr. perfect but with
meication for my depression and an understanding wife
i’m doing better.

Answer by michaelsan
I think you might try seeing that you love and respect yourself for what you are; what you think, feel, and do, or not. You can begin easily by doing your best in each situation you find yourself in. Then you will immediately have feedback that you can be proud of, find respect in, and learn to love. You can turn it around instantly this way. This will give you something “substantial” to take the place of the thoughts you are having, and you will soon be able to let those go and replace them with the good memories you are making doing your best now.

Answer by Cyndi C
start by standing in front of a mirror and, for a full minute, thinking ONLY positive thoughts about yourself. it’ll be hard to do at first, but the more you do it, the easier it will become. look yourself in the eye and say “I love you”. it’s a shame when you can say “I love you” to someone else and yet find it very difficult to say it to yourself, isn’t it? the more you do it, the more you will find you like yourself or even, eventually, love yourself.

hang in there!

Answer by Katty
Well, a start would be to surround yourself with positive people. People who you know won’t put you down, and the people who do put you down, you just have to learn to blow them off and just let whatever they tell you roll off your back and don’t take seriously. That’s what I had to learn to do, of course whatever works for one person may not work for another, that’s just a suggestion. Some other suggestions I have are, and as goofy as this sounds try keeping a journal get all of the built up emotions toward yourself or just in general out. or try doing something positive that makes you happy, whatever it may be.
Gradually just start complimenting yourself. But really, and for everyone it’s different, for me it was a gradual and an over time thing. It didn’t happen over night.
But you may just want to try surrounding yourself with the right people and do something positive that makes you happy.
And another thing, and again, this was just me, at the time I avoided churches because I found the people at the church my family went to were highly judge mental, and I found that quite hypocritical also. (not saying every church is that way). Not saying if you are religious to quite believing in whatever it is you believe in, just be careful not to put yourself in a place where you feel like all eyes are on you in a bad way.
But everyone has to find what works for them the best.
Bust of luck to you.

Answer by kwb1965
I’d start by going to a more reliable source than answers website