How do I ask someone out without putting our friendship in too much jeopardy?

j26eh: How do I ask someone out without putting our friendship in too much jeopardy?
Im new to the whole dating scene cause im a teenager. I was wondering how if it is at all possible I can ask this girl out without putting our friendship in jeopardy if she either rejects me or we break up later on. We are really good friends but i don’t know if she sees me that way and I don’t want to destroy our friendship if something happens. How should I approach this?

Answers and Views:

Answer by Ian
ask her out…..if she says no then say ok well be friends…..and if u do go out and have a huge argument and break up after uv felt shes gotten over it approach her and say “i still want to be friends” or “im sorry”…..hope this helps GOOD LUCK!!

Answer by teresa j
no, you can’t. i’m afraid that dating and friendship doesn’t mix well. if she rejects you there will be awkwardness even if you both try your hardest you’ll always remember and be aware of it. if she says yes then there’s a chance your friendship could blossom into a life long love – but you’re a teenager and just about to start dating so really how likely is that?? and even if you break up on “good terms” your friendship will never be the same again. I’m not saying it’s not worth taking the risk – it really depends on what the friendship is like and how much you want that to remain the same in the future.

Answer by Anna I
Ask her out. I had a close friend ask me out I said no and stayed friends then he asked me out again and I said yes. Who knows take your chances and just ask her. That’s what girls want you know. We don’t want to ask out a guy.

Answer by shy girl
i guess you should just start a conversation and ask her if she can ever see you as more then a friend tell her you was just wondering that is just a question and see how she reacts to that….if she doesnt react in an akward way then ask he out…

Answer by nicky
That is great that you are thinking about your friendship, well i was in this same situation. I was scared because I didn’t want to ruin a good thing like that as well. Well, you just need to let her know how you really feel, because if you don’t you are always going to be thinking about what could have been. Believe me, i know. Just be honest with her, and if it works out then great, but if she doesn’t feel the same way, at least you asked. You can still be her friend, even if she doesn’t feel the same way. And if you guys do go out and end up breaking up just try to be friends again, it might take a few weeks to rebuild that again, but don’t just push it away. The way that you should approach this is, by asking her if you could talk to her, just the two of you, let her know how you feel, and a single rose would help. Well that’s how my best friend and now boyfriend got me. I just hope this helps you.

Answer by Katherinesuperstar
omg that what the boy i like told me that he didn’t want to go out with me because of our friendship but i really do want to go out with him
tell your friend to ask if she likes you more than as a friend or tell one of her friends to her and then to tell you

Answer by berto123
This is what happened to me. I hooked up with a friend and it worked out. I’m new to this whole thing too. What I did was I got my friend that is good friends with her to see if she liked me. So, if you have any friends that are good friends with her, then ask them if she likes you. I did that 2 times and the first time it didn’t work but the second time it did. If you break up, there is a good chance that you will still be friends.

Hope that this helps!

Answer by chocoboblue99
I will agree with the major of people on here. Just ask her out. If she is really your friend than she will stay friends with you no matter what happens.

Another thing is I prefer to know what will happen then to wonder what would had happened.

You should know this too, the longer you stay friends with a girl the harder it is to ask them out. And, the more wired it would be for you to ask her out. Sooner or later, she will start to think you are like her brother or something and she automatically will say no to you whenever you manager to ask her out. You don’t want that, so you ask her before that happens.

My story is, I had a friend like you. I asked her out. She said, no and now we are not friends anymore. But don’t worry about me. It’s okay, because we were not good friends and losing her wasn’t that big of a deal. I have a lot of friends and it’s her lost.

Do what you want. But I like to know than not to know.

Answer by Sheila F
sometimes friendship is the most important thing. Don’t let your feelings get the best of you. you might loose a friend. relationships are not easy to have but emotions are better to hold.

Answer by bike1942
Just be casual and ask if she is going out anywhere on a particular day, if she says yes, but asks why you asked, just reply and say “I thought we might do something different”. Make sure you have a place of interest for her if she agrees.