How can I “make love” out of sex?

Me: How can I “make love” out of sex?
My husband and I have been married 6 years, I’m in my early 20’s and hes in his early 30’s. When we first met, as with all relationships, the sex was fresh and exciting. Now its boring and lackluster, I have always just wanted a little “movie sex” with passion. Our sex never includes foreplay, kissing, or even looking at each other’s face. Five minutes and back to the T.V. When we are about to have sex, he jokes around a lot. I am trying to be serious, kissing and rubbing his body to get him in the mood. All the while hes watching T.V. or is hurrying me up to do it. He’s only serious during sex and his passion during so is that of a porn star using crude words or remarks. Not a turn-on. He says he finds it hard to be that way. To him, showing me his manhood should be all the foreplay I need. I’m not a s l u t so that doesn’t work. The main problem is how to be serious without him busting out laughing, its very embarrassing . Am I really stuck with “sex” that does nothing for me?!?

Answers and Views:

Answer by BabeHeart
If you’ve talked to him about this and he won’t try to compromise, then you may well be “stuck” with how you’re currently getting it as long as you two are together.

Was it this way before you married? If so then you knew from the get-go how it would be. If it wasn’t always this way, then if he was more passionate in the past he can be again…if he chooses to be.

Answer by shelly s
with hold sex for a while……he will soon relize your serious.
and he wont think it’s funny, not getting laid

Answer by harold
Unless you can get him to change, yes you are stuck…

Answer by sleepinbeautysmiles
tell him how you feel and let him know he won’t get sex… anymore until he can work with you! 🙂

Answer by Starlisha
That’s what happens when you marry someone a lot older ………Yes, you’ll have a dull sex life, which will become non-existent……then you’ll probably take on a lover……….

Answer by Tally
Sex is always better away from home. Plan a little weekend getaway and see if that adds anything.

Answer by ronidl76
I had a man like that once; well, rather, I was with a man like him once. I had to take control. I insisted that he not say a word, and if he did, I’d stop. We did that til he got the picture. When he laid back, relaxed and enjoyed, we were better able to connect. He wasn’t so preoccupied with getting it done, and didn’t feel so uncomfortable and having to laugh or say dumb things. He’s your husband. He should know, but I guess he doesn’t. It’s really an intimate thing, especially with a husband and wife. You are not just anyone, you’re his wife, and the connection is missing. He won’t change that on his own.

Answer by eviltruitt
Really, this is all your fault for getting married so young, and to a man so much older than you. This is what happens. If you’re in your early 20’s and have been married 6 years, you must have gotten married at like 18 or 19, way too young! You should still be single and playing the field, and then you would be having great sex that was always fresh, because you wouldn’t be in a serious relationship. You were too immature before you got married to recognize that this would be a problem eventually, and you’re still to immature if you think that you can change him in any way.

Silly little girl. The only way your situation will improve is if you get a divorce and find another guy(s) that can take care of your needs.

Answer by Julius G
Be romantic. Don’t just “do it” then put the TV back on.

Get dressed up in a hot little number with a pair a strappy high heels, and nothing else on. Wear his favorite perfume and have your hair and make up all done up.

Either meet him at the door when he gets home, or maybe drop by his office! Maybe have him meet you for a drink after work. Get there early and let him find yu flirting at the bar.

Then, when you get a chance, give him a couple of peeks under your dress. This will get him hot as a firecracker! He won’t keep his hands off you!

Do it anywhere, but the not in your bed! In the car, in kitchen, outside somewhere–anywhere, but do it often!

Be sexy, be romantic, don’t just have sex, enjoy it–he will too!

Answer by Wald-Izzle
well atleast u attempt to have sex with him…unlike my girl…but what you need to do is simple….sit his butt down and put fist in down….tell him i sayd that sex isnt just to please ur phisical desires, but to please ur emotional and spiritual desires…sex without foreplay can be achieved but y not spice it up…like u i wanna be made feel that not only does she want my body but that she wants me and my time and my romance, wanna be made to feel like the special person that u are or should be to ur romantic partner….making love is sooooo much better than just having sex…..sex is easy, intimacy is difficult, yet so much more meaningful….hope this helps u out and i have ur back…u can message me anytime if u need more advice