Nini L: How can a Christian Egyptian groom and Vietnamese bride throw a wedding?
We are going to get marry but we need to throw a wedding that would please both sides of groom and bride. How can we do this? I don’t know what to do. Please advice.
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Answer by Jenjen
Weddings are not about pleasing the family of the bride and groom. They are about the bride and groom. Usually the groom doesn’t really care…so weddings are really all about the bride. Honey, this is your day. Do whatever makes YOU happy!
Why not have two ceremonies – have the traditional vietnamese one in costume or whatever the bride wants to have and also have a christian one – have whichever one fills the legal requirements of where you are going to live first and then have the other as a blessing or whatever
Either that or have a ceremony with celebrants from both cultures performing the ceremony and wear what you want to wear as you wedding gear
Or you could just please yourselves with a ceremony in a nice outdoor setting with clothes that match the occasion and a celebrant that is not from either culture – it is your wedding day after all and its important for the two of you to have what each of you want – not just the bride or not just the groom – marriage is a union of two people and the two should do the choosing of how you celebrate
Because its two differing cultures coming together perhaps its time to make some new customs to suit yourselves and any future family that you may have – you can still incorporate some of the old customs that are important to each of you and your families but make them to suit your day
Congratulations to both of you and much happinessAnswer by JAN
Wow thats a cool combo. I’m Vietnamese/French and my soon to be wife is White/Costa Rican and (for us) its just gonna be a small AMERICAN wedding… Two weddings for you is very expensive, so I’d just do ONE regular American wedding with a touch of Vietnamese and Egyptian here and there. I’m Catholic but I dunno what the rules are so we’re just gonna wing it. haha Best of luck to you though!Answer by Yve
Is the Vietnamese bride Christian? If so, it’ll make it easier, unless she’s Catholic. If she’s Catholic and wishing to please her parents, then she’ll have to marry within the Roman Catholic church. In that case, consult a priest.
You’ll want to incorporate traditions from both cultures. I don’t know enough about either culture to help you on that.
You might want to talk to your families about traditions that they feel are “must haves” for a wedding.
You can look in your phone book or online for interfaith information.
Answer by TailoredCeremonies.comI would recommend seeking out an interfaith or non-denominational officiant who knows how to combine elements of both cultures. The result could be a wedding that honors both families and traditions and celebrates the unity of your new family together.
Each of you can wear wedding garb that honors your own traditions or you may both choose to wear one set of clothes for the ceremony and another for the reception.
A tea ceremony is traditional in Vietnamese weddings, and an interfaith minister should be able to add that for you. You can add in the receiving party (the “Zaffa”) and the ceremonial seats (the “Kosha”) during the ceremony, for example, to honor the Egyptian culture.
Let your creativity guide in crafting something new!
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