How do I get my fiancee into bed?

: How do I get my fiancee into bed?
My fiancee and i are waiting for our wedding night to have sex. In fact, we are both virgins. How should we get started that night? Because of our religion, we can’t drink any type of alcohol or watch porn or anything? She’s terrified and I don’t want to hurt her or anything, but we both know we want to do it. Any suggestions?

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Answer by planner
there are many online first time sex helps which you can look into. just google “sexual help for virgins on wedding night.”

the main thing is to communicate with one another. since both of you are inexperienced it will be a learning process you do together, which lends to the specialness of the bond. there is nothing to be afraid of since first time sex rarely hurts women anymore. their hymen’s are normally already either broken or nearly broken by strenuous school exercise, using tampons, or other normal physical activity and the breaking of the hymen is the only things which used to be initially painful for a woman. even that short pain would subside quickly enough.

if you take some music you both love, have a relaxing bath or shower and some soothing candles lit in the room and just take your time and explore one another gently and with consideration, you will be fine. don’t build it up to being this great sexual experience because first time sex normally isn’t that great. it becomes great with practice and love and patience.

Answer by Common Sense
The greatest thing about sex is that it comes to you instinctual. Pay attention to your body and to hers and take the ques from her as to whether she is liking what is happening or if it is uncomfortable to her. If she seems like she is not enjoying any touching, then change the way you are touching her until you get it right. It is about experimenting with what feels good as well with what does not.

And, really, that is the bottom line here. Communication through body language is key to picking up what you both like. You will learn together, so do not expect the first time to be fireworks. Until you try sexual acts you will not know what each other likes. So, again, experimenting with what feels good is important. Also, a good lover is never selfish with their own orgasm without making sure their partner climaxes as well. But, this could take time to reach that mutual satisfaction, so do not fret if she is too nervous to relax enough at first.

Answer by thedreamweaverwolf
communication and take things slow

Answer by Trish
Just cuddle for a while get under the covers with a flashlight play like you’re camping and talk then turn out the flashlight while you kiss then go from there. Just a thought from someone who’s been there.

Answer by swbarnes2
If you think you or she needs porn or alcohol to be interested in sex, something is very very wrong.

Answer by ρερρεяЬεαѕτ
Why would two healthy young people need to drink alcohol or watch porn to be able to have sex?

Answer by Paula
I advise reading up beforehand on what to expect. Especially your fiancee, since she is “terrified” in your words. If you are Christian, a site I like to recommend is https://www.themarriagebed.com . You will get a lot of good guidance there. It deals with sex in a tasteful and informative way, and I’m sure there are many other sites which do the same.

Oh and don’t worry if the first time doesn’t go well. It rarely does – but it improves as you learn together.

Answer by Stephanie Steeves
i understand where you are coming from. I was there. And for those that think that the idea of porn/alcohol is indicating something is wrong, it doesn’t. If you check out other feeds along this same line, a lot of them suggest getting drunk or watching some racy film to get you both in the mood. . . . not lying. just sayin it’s there.
take it slow. calm down, both of you. People have been having sex for the first time for thousands of years, and we still do it, so it can’t be that bad. Yeah, it’s going to hurt a little the first time. But with practice (which, you won’t mind doing :D) it willbe a lot more fun. Lots of lubricant, lots of foreplay, lots of time. You have the rest of your lives to figure it out. It doesn’t have to be your wedding night. You can wait until you are both more rested.