Would u continue dating a guy if..?

confused: Would u continue dating a guy if..?
Hi.. I am 25 and my boyfriend is 28. We been together for almost 3 years. I am planning on getting married in the future .. Maybe in 3-4 yrs… I would bring it up to him n ask if we r going to get married n he would say he doesn’t want to talk about it… Today I asked him if getting married in 3 years is too soon for couples.. He said no. Then I said so why aren’t we getting married? He said because we/ he doesn’t have money. I said well r u saving up??? N he said he can’t save up because all his money goes to bills . N he can’t save n e money… I asked him so r u gonna change that? N he said i dunno. I said I want to get married in the future I don’t want to just live with u forever! So basically I am asking if u girls will continue your relationship with a guy if he says he does not have money to marry u in the future?

Answers and Views:

Answer by SavannahDarling
sweetie… i don’t think it’s the money that’s stopping him. give him an ultimatum & if he can’t answer how you want him too, get out before it’s too late.
you’re still young enough to find somebody, but don’t stay with this guy until you’re 40 & he keeps saying he doesn’t want to talk about it.
good luck to you.

Answer by jane
It costs a fortune and most people today get just enough money to live off and not have any money to save up but you could just get married in a registrar office which wont cost much why not do that if it means that much to you

Answer by barbiee
Tell me, what’s gonna change if you get married? What you two have at the moment is exactly the same thing but without a ceremony. Big deal. I don’t blame him. Guys always get the short end of the stick with the whole marriage thing if it goes wrong.

Answer by ChoDuffield
I think you need to have deeper discussions and get to the bottom of the issue before making this decision. The question really is if he sees you getting married to you ever. The conversation should also move to whether or no his debt is an issue to you. You’re living with him now with his debt so what’s the difference? The true issue probably isn’t the money. It’s that he has an image in his head as to where he needs to be in his life to be in the position to get married. The trouble is, if one waits for that perfect time then they’ll let a lot of things pass them by.

Answer by kayla
Even though you might not think it, you’re both still very young. Just keep working on your relationship day by day & don’t badger him all the time about getting married. I don’t know your situation, so I can’t judge. But, maybe he is just thinking in terms of what is best for the both of you? He might think… “Well, if we get married, kids will be next!” He may just want to be financially stable before he makes any big moves. It’s hard when you’re paying bills left & right & at the same time trying to save that extra penny. We really can’t tell you whether or not you should date this man. That’s your choice. Issues like this are common, & if you both happen to want different things, that’s perfectly normal as well. Sometimes things don’t work out, doesn’t mean you won’t get other chances.