Saved By Grace: Do you think parents should encourage their children to wait until marriage to have sex?
Or at least until they are 18?
My parents always stressed the importance of waiting until marriage, and I am 20 years old and still planning to follow through with that. I will probably encourage my children to do the same, but will also inform them of how to have safe sex in case they decide not to listen to me (which I realize is quite likely, since not very many people wait any more).
So my question is will you encourage your children to wait? Why or why not? And also, are you an adult (18+) or a child? And do you have children?
Answers and Views:
Answer by C
No I will enourage safe sex when the time comes. They are young now, so I got more than a few years yet.
yes of course. any parent that doesn’t is only setting their kid up for destructive behaviour. i’ll probably get a sh;t ton of thumbs down, but it’s the truthAnswer by •Vanessa•
that’s a good idea. since having sex has so much risks it’s better to be married and stable.
I would teach my children that, considering that I’m abstinent myself. It’s just less risky. You are making a good decision.
I’m 17 and don’t have children lolAnswer by Gus
I’m a child and my mom told me she had sex for the first time when she was 19
I told her i would loose it to someone that i love at the age of 17 or 18
I have a bf now, and i mostly think of having sex at that age because i am more
experienced, with who i would want to do it with and wont regret it
My mom always asks me if i have had sex its hella annoying i always tell her no,i guess her annoyance got the best of me, cuz i want to wait longer now
Even though i am a really perverted chick,i don’t show that to my mom though haha xD haha im 16 btw =D
Answer by Laura BI think they should at least stress waiting for someone really special, but at the same time, stress sex education and open communication. I’m going to tell my daughters, let me know when you are considering becoming sexually active, we will head on over to the clinic and get the depo shot or bc pills. I don’t want to have to raise their “oopsy” kids!Answer by Sana
You should wait really long after you marry to have it or else it kind of disgraces your family for having it before even getting married so parents should encourage their children way after marrige depending on their age!:<Answer by ali b
yes i will encourage them to wait
to be mature enough to judge all the result of it
yes i am over 18 and i have 2 girls.Answer by Smith Smith
My dad wouldn’t have minded if i had sex before marriage, my mother would have.
Truth is, everyone has their own POV on this thing and it would be best to respect their own interpretation.
If it was up to me, i wouldn’t force my kids to do anything, i would explain the advantages/disadvantages and leave it up to them to decide, because this is something that might hurt a relationship if not done at the right time.
I wouldnt encourage my kids to have sex with everyone, i would encourage them to choose the right moments in life to have sex.
Answer by Lady Dominawhen the relationship gets seroius enough then sex will have to happen. I would advise teens today to wait until they are 18 but they should definitly have sex BEFORE they get married.
too many times couples divorce because they are sexually incompatable.
I am female, married. 56 yo
LD
Answer by Danny CotterI do not have children but I will teach them safe sex instead of waiting till marriage because even like you said in your question the odds are higher that they would rather risk safe sex than none at all. Even my father who was educated in all catholic schools by the church never told me to wait till marriage. I am 19 (boy) and in college and have never had anyone so never had sex myself but I don’t plan on waiting till marriage.Answer by Jayne
I think encouraging a child to wait till adulthood and getting out of high school is a fairly good idea. However, asking that they remain abstinent until marriage in our current society is not a realistic idea. Popular culture is sex driven, unfortunate but true.
I think it is more important to be open with our kids and honest and let them know about how to protect themselves from pregnancy and std’s. Young girls also need to know that there is a double standard set for them. If their boyfriend slept with multiple girls, he is popular. If she sleeps with multiple guys she is a skank. Is this double standard fair? No., but it is there none the less.
A parent who is open with their teen and tells them how to protect themselves is going to be able to better protect their child than the parent who preaches ONLY abstinence. Teens need understanding and openess to be effectively reached. Should teens in school be having sex?, NO!!! Does it happen?, Yes. If more parents talked protection and what could go wrong with their kids would things be better?, Possibly.
I was 19 when I first had sex. My mother while wanting me to wait as long as possible stressed the importance of protecting myself and the use of contraceptives. Some of the best advice I ever could have received.
No I don’t have kids, but I would want my kids to know how to protect themselves and not be afraid to come to be with questions.
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