do you believe in waiting til marriage to “make love”?

★Lanie★: do you believe in waiting til marriage to “make love”?
if not, why?

Answers and Views:

Answer by Irene
yes i do

Answer by Blue Ocean
Yes.

Answer by * * *
no. humans are programmed with animalistic instincts. its only natural to crave the opposite sex and be turned on.it may be a sin but this is how we were made and there is no harm in doing what your body naturally craves. God forgives, and loves, dont trip.

Answer by mari
Yes I do. it’s may sound lame but it’s worth the wait to give the guy you love your love fully and your virginity which is a present to him. It’s love I suppose not to worry about anyone else or Anyone else
but your guy. I lost mine once and I’ve never done it again because it’s so much better to
give it to someone you really love. it’s suppose o be special

Answer by Lynn
Yes. The Bible makes it clear that we are supposed to wait. And, honestly, there would be many less problems in the world if we did.

Answer by Rotten remains I eat
Marriage means ownership. Has nothing to do with making love.

Answer by George McCasland
Yes
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Answer by Dr. House
It doesn’t really matter what I believe but let me urge you to take a stand one way or the other.

There are basically three ways to live your life:
Religiously.
Secularly.
Half-assed.

Most people are half-assed which is why their lives are so fucked up.

If you take the religious tract, then you need to truly believe and devote yourself to it. You should court, young, within your religion to find a suitable mate. Your pastor, church elders, parent’s etc… can assist in finding someone suitable for you.
You can wed virgins and learn everything together and work toward the best life you can together.
You will also be pregnant much of your life and spend most of it taking care of babies and children.
If you want that and accept that, it’s not a bad way of life.
The problem is, most women don’t want that.
Most women don’t accept that.

Which leads us to 2:
Secular.
Feminism gave you the right to control when and if you procreate independently of when you have sex. Contraception is available to prevent pregnancy and *when* it fails (because it will) abortion is the last tool for birth-control. You have 10,000 eggs, they all cannot become children.
Once you accept abortion, then and only then do you gain control over your life and have the ability to plan your family.

If you do not accept abortion, then your life will be guided by when and if you get pregnant – that is the half-assed way of life. Dooms-day scenario here is you end up a single mother.

If one has premarital sex, then one has chosen to live a non-religious life. If such a woman then elects to bear a child, refuse abortion, then she is choosing what she wants and she wants a baby. If he wanted a baby he would marry her (and works towards buying a home.) Since she is a single mother, he didn’t marry her, didn’t want a baby, and she choose what she wanted over what was best for her, best for him, and best for her family. You’re done. No smart man will ever even date you because you’ll make the same selfish choice again.

Once you realize that divorce is a reality, even common, then the idea you are going to have sex with just one person is folly.

Sexual compatibility is important in marriage and the three key points of compatibility are *traits*; orientation, kink, and drive. They are not things you can change a whole lot.
If you never explore your sexuality, then you don’t know where you fall. If you never explore it with your partner then you don’t know how compatible you are.

Exclusive relationships mean sex.
If you are not prepared to get an abortion or if you are not prepared to raise a child then you are not prepared to have sex and consequentially not prepared to have a boyfriend.

Choose wisely.

Answer by Rosetta Stoned
Absolutely not. Because I want to know if someone is good in the sack before committing the rest of my life to them. Sex is important to me.

Answer by Sorlo A
Yes

Answer by Molly
I really don’t. I also think that if a person goes out and has a few experiences, it can tempt them from going out and cheating on you when married. I think that only having been with one person would really make the person wonder about all the others that they could have been with.

Then again, this is what I think, doesn’t mean that I am right or wrong.

Answer by TheAfrican
i prefer to test drive my Mercedes before buying it. i sure dont want to buy a Mercedes off the lot only to find a KIA engine in it after i payed for it.

Answer by basketcase88
I absolutely do. I couldn’t have been intimate with anyone until I had the commitment of marriage. Most of the problems with relationships and families today come from people having sex outside of marriage.

To those who say that humans are animals, and sex is an instinct I’ll reply that human beings are the only animals on the planet who can control their sexual urges.

As far as those who compare having sex prior to marriage to test driving a car, my response is that I know the difference between a Chevy and a Lexus, just by looking at them. I don’t need to drive the Lexus to know how much better than a Chevy it really is. My husband and I have been married for 22 years, and we knew pretty well that we were sexually compatible before we got married. If you’re not wanting to rip each other’s clothes off before you’re married, then you’ve got problems.