Do “pretty girls” have to initiate a bit more to show interest back?

Only girl in your world: Do “pretty girls” have to initiate a bit more to show interest back?
I’m an old fashioned girl yet modern. I was raised to believe that if a guy wants you, he’ll come over and “do the work”. If you don’t here from him after, “he’s just not that into you” and ladies need to accept it. I was catching up w. an acquaintance – we were swapping dating stories. She told me when we first met, she was “jealous of me” bc I’m “pretty”. I don’t want to be conceited but I’ve heard I’m a “pretty girl”. That’s what I get associated with. I’m humbled by the “association” and I think it’s bc I do take good care of myself. She kept saying she had her issues then (she loves herself now) but would avoid looking at me or being near me bc if she did, she would feel bad about herself and jealous. But, she got to know me and was surprised at what a “sweet, polite, mannered” girl I was… very “down to earth”. She thought my “prettyness” gave me that stereotype that I could possibly be unapproachable. This is news to my ears. She says because i’m “pretty” and I’m actually interested in a guy, I have to initiate back. I met this gentleman last summer (the most respectful guy I’ve ever met and to this day, appreciate it). He was a bit reserved/shy and had help around him to even talk to me. With that, we talked and he politely asked for my number and took me out to dinner. Dinner was full of nerves and was a “job interview” and I guess we were both shy (i knew I was). At that time, I was also emotionally unavailable (was going through alot) and I’m sure it came off as “disinterest”, maybe? We left it at, “we should do this again sometime” and a hug. And it kinda died off fr. there. I took it as a sign of disinterest, “if he wanted something, he would’ve…” BUT he is classy. This acquaintance told me it was bc he didn’t wanna risk rejection fr. a pretty girl.

I also spoke w. a friend of mine who has this mentality of letting the girl “come to him” even though he’s “old fashioned”. He (just like that gentleman) doesn’t make an effort to go to bars, clubs to meet a girlfriend. He’s liked girls in the past and have tried too hard…only to get rejected so he says after the initial, “number, first date”, it’s up to her…
advice?

Answers and Views:

Answer by OMI JEN
I wouldn’t rely on the advice of this girl too much….She sounds a bit insecure……And seems to be trying to get you to lower yourself……
As long as you stay true to your principals and morals, you will do just great !!!
You were not emotionally available last summer and this guy obviously respected that…..
You were the one that gave off the negative “vibes” Don’t blame him for respecting that you weren’t interested……He was not the disinterested person, YOU WERE!!!!! Maybe you should make some effort to contact him and see how he is…Who knows, could be the best thing you ever did…..
Romance, dating and interest is a TWO WAY STREET…….Don’t play the “helpless Scarlett” and expect ” Rhett Butler” to save you…….because, “quite frankly they just don’t give a damn” anymore in this day and age….Good Luck and never sell yourself short!!!!