Blood is the sign to know a virgin woman why is it that i havent seen any blood in my first coitus?

disturb: Blood is the sign to know a virgin woman why is it that i havent seen any blood in my first coitus?
I didnt sex with anybody, my husband questioned if i had sex with someone before.He was the one and only boyfriend i had and i had no relationship with someone else.I was disturb, and very much effected by the time i remeber what he asked. I am afraid if this matter will affect much with our marriage life.i felt that i was not a pure woman to my husband that he can proud of.what will i do to enlighten my mind and enhance my self esteem?

Answers and Views:

Answer by blkwdw86
Breaking of the hymen doesn’t always produce bleeding, or sometimes can produce an unnoticable amount. Also, the hymen is rather fragile, and can easily break without sex from such vigorous impactive activity such as horseback riding, bicycle riding, etc.

Answer by cs
No blood is NOT a sign that a woman isn’t a virgin. Hymens can be broken through exercise and sports. Tell your husband to get his facts straight.

Answer by tambam
if you don’t mind my asking what nationality are you?
tell your husband if your having trouble with him over this that you didn’t bleed cause his penis is small

Answer by echoserria
That’s an old wives tale. Some people just don’t bleed the first time. It’s fine, healthy, and although not very common a perfectly fine thing. Lets not go back to the old roman days where people would watch the couples wedding night activites and hold up the sheets. He should accept you and love you for who you are, and all of your biological uniqueness. If he can’t find someone else who can.

Answer by queenmidnyte
Were you active in sports in school? i know that there are things that you can do to break you hymen. like sports and other physical activities, and you probably won’t notice it.

Answer by rayk469
I have known several girls whose hyman broke as a function of horseback riding, falls during gymnastics, that sort of thing.

Answer by giveu2tictacs
First of all your husband needs to understand that not all woman bleed when they have thier first sex experience. This is a website with explination to give to your husband.

https://www.livestrong.com

It would also be good for you to read too.

Answer by lowerbearville
Lots of things can happen to cause this situation. The blood is caused by the breaking of the hymen. The hymen, however, can be broken by lots of things other than sex. In some women, the hymen can be more fragile, and may have broken long before sexual contact. Or, it may be that it just didn’t bleed very much.

You should not worry about it. If you husband does worry about it, that’s really sad. You may be able to find a medical professional that will verify the above. But if your husband is going to hold it against you, that may not help.

Best of luck.

Answer by charilemo1234589
hey dont worry i didnt either. however if you used to masturbate prior to your husband that could be the reason. if he doesnt trust you enough to believe you then thats his problem. i remember my first was a jerk and went around telling everyone that i wasnt a virgin and i was.

Answer by sweetgurl79_2000
i didn’t bleed my first time but i did bleed i guess about the 15th time i had sex… but i wasn’t a virgin then..so… it could of been..*being to ruff*… but the guy thought i was a vigin..it was funny but u don’t bleed the first time… sevral of my friends never bled ither… so u are not alone

Answer by likewhatupwiththat
The reason women bleed the first time is because the hymen is torn. Its just a piece of skin in the vagina. It can be torn by riding a horse, by a gynacological exam, there’s lotsa ways it could have been done. Hey, there’s a surgical procedure to have it reattached. You could be a virgin again and again!!

Answer by loquaciousxleo
Not all females bleed the first time they have sex. Due to the more active activities females partake in these days, most females don’t bleed. Because of horseback riding, riding a bike, gymnastics, running, almost any sport. The hymen can stretch and tear/break. If you use a tampon, it doesn’t take your virginity away, and can use it comfortably, your hymen is probably already broken or stretched out. The definition of a virgin isn’t a female who bleeds the first time she has sex but a female who is pure and has not had any sexual intercourse. Tell yourself that it is okay and your husband should and will love you for who you are and not whether or not you bleed. Besides, if you did bleed it would hurt you and should your first experience be wonderful and not painful?

Answer by f2016
no,some times there is no blood.
bring your husband with you to a doctor to explain this to you and him.
it is very important that you don’t feel guilty and him not thinking bad about you.(if you don’t clear it as soon as possible,it causes many problems in future)

Answer by kittycats
There is a thin membrane, called the hymen, that breaks during the first intercourse, if still intact.
A lot of women don’t bleed the first time because the hymen may have broken long ago.
It could happen in any number of ways, quite often without your knowledge. A vigorous activity, exercise, sports, or an injury… can all cause the hymen to break by itself.
That doesn’t make you any less a virgin. It simply means that nature took care of it long ago.

Answer by akash1769
In the range of different kinds of hymens (the part of you that hinders first entrance into the vagina), you most likely had either a slightly formed one or through intense sports activity you may have ripped yours.

Some women have to have them surgically cut to have intercourse… some don’t even grow one. As long as you know in your heart you’ve been faithful you don’t need to go overboard reassuring him. In time he will come to know you are trustworthy and the issue will dissolve.

Check out a book called Ask Alice…. great for bring light to the whole subject of women’s sexuality.

Answer by robynsbeauty
My hymen also never broke. I was very athletic and this has something to do with it. It does not mean you are not pure.

As for your husband. If he doesnt love you because you are not pure, then he doesn not love you at all. I would be highly offended.

You are obviously a beautiful person who cares about others needs, and that is all you need to know.

Answer by Allie
The hymen can be broken through many activities that aren’t even remotely related to sex. Riding a bike, horseback riding, putting in a tampon, and even just falling. Hell, some women are born without a hymen (I never had one!). Find some medical books or whatever that can tell you some of the reasons why a hymen may not be present, and give them to your husband- then ask him to trust you. If he can’t, then you probably shouldn’t be married to him at all.