: Why do some teenagers feel the need to make others feel so bad about themselves?
The things they say are the most cruelest things you can say to a person. Some don’t care about the damage they cause you. What do they get out of it? Is there justice? Please keep in mind that I say some teenagers. So i’m not generalizing teenagers. I know not all of them are like that.
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Honestly, I’ve learned that the ones that do that are really insecure with themselves. Even if they seem so confident, they might have underlying issues. I went to school with some cruel kids and now that we’re all older, I can see it was to make them feel better about themselves. you can’t let it get to you. Be strong and don’t let them see you hurt, that’s what they want.
I was bullied as a child & teen. Plus grew up in a verbally abusive home & family.
I’ve learned that “hurting people hurt people”.
In English that means – those who hurt other people usually are hurting themselves in some way.
Here is an example –
When I was in 6th grade I was bullied by this girl name Christine. Christine was a very large over weight girl. She was as tall as adult too. Very tall & very large. She at times had to wear braces on her legs to help her walk. She picked on me. I was the smallest girl in the class. Now at 35 I’m only 5′. She use to pick me up and hang me UPSIDE down on a fence or pole. Kids would laugh and at times I’d hear my belt loop tear and I’d fall. She would call me names & have her friends tease me too.
One day after school her family came to pick her up and talk to the teacher about something. Her mom was was also very large and a grandmother came along too. The mom & grandmother called Christine to them but not in a kind way. They rudely called out her name. Her whole face changed and she looked up. She slowly walked to them. Then later I saw them walking with her to the car. The mom and grandmother were slapping her in the head and calling her fat & other kinds of names.
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Even at the age of 12 I saw that Chistine most likely picked on me because she was picked on too. Plus she was hurting other kids so we wouldn’t make fun of her. If she was bully we wouldn’t call her fat would me? We were scared of her.
About 8yrs ago or so I saw a Disney movie about 2 highschool girls who switched lives with each other. They were fighting and a judge ordered them to live each others life for I think over a month. So the nerdy girl learned that the snobby girl who teased her lived a rough life. The snobby girl had to care for her brother, her mom ignored her and so on. The snobby girl who teased the nerd actually envied the nerds home life because she had such a large caring family.
You have to look deep into a bully and you will often see they are really hurting in some way.
yes there are some people who are just mean & hateful. Studies have been done on some of the worst serial killers to find out why they killed. Yet some of these men came from a normal home life. They were not teased as kids & had a great family life. So yes some bullies are just mean.
What do they get out of it? Like I said they hurt you before you hurt them.
Is there justice? Knowing they have the power helps them feel safe
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