What’s the difference between someone raised by a loving, fulfilling family, and…?

: What’s the difference between someone raised by a loving, fulfilling family, and…?
one with cold, strict parents? who had to learn everything on their own.
could they have all the same problems? (low self esteem, dependence?)
is there a benefit to not being shown love?
are there some things you can’t learn when you have loving parents?

Answers and Views:

Answer by Nikolai Azero
No… You really need loving parents. Unfortunately, if they’re not already loving, then they probably wouldn’t listen, but if they were you wouldn’t have this problem. It’s a vicious cycle. I feel sorry for you. I mean, I almost never see my Dad, but I at least know he loves me. That really must be terrible… My sympathy is with you.

Answer by Giovany
My mom is no one where to be found and my dad is very strict and cold because my grandparents were really hard on him. All I can tell you is I learn from my dads mistakes and I will remember to never treat my kids the same when I have some. I sometimes go over friends houses and to see how close and playful they’re with their parents makes me feel like crap. This might not help much but just remember there is always someone out there who has it worse.

Answer by Kherova
Well it isn’t quite as simple as that. Some people do well in one way or the other. Sometimes people from overly loving parents are ill equipped to deal with a harsh world, and so have issues adjusting to life’s reality later on. They can be overly trusting, or idealistic, and when they find out the world doesn’t work like that, they kind of have a separation anxiety with their vision of life.
Kids from a cold family could go on to be great, powerful and loving to be different (and because they are driven to desire it) from the way they were raised, or they could get consumed by the stress, or develop the inability to relate to people or have too much baggage to carry.
Either situation can lead to low self esteem, depression, and unhealthy attachments to people who provide the illusion of what they seek.
It’s all about balance. Anyone to far to the extreme of one or the other will find difficulties in life. If they survive those difficulties, it will be a function of their will, the effort they put in, and if the load isn’t too much to bear.

Things you can’t learn from loving parents are generally how to do the right thing if it means hurting someone. Usually loving parents teach you to follow your heart, but there are many times in life, where if you really love someone, it means breaking their heart, or letting them hate you because it is what they need to move on to a better place in their life. Loving parents also tend to coddle their children, or let them get their way too much, which does not teach them much humility or self reliance.