What would you do if you found out your lover is attracted to your residual manhood?

Peter Landry: What would you do if you found out your lover is attracted to your residual manhood?
I don’t want to hear “how you would feel” because according to our dear users that’s chatting. What is the appropriate action to take when you find out that your lover of months is a stealth tranny-chaser, attracted to you specifically because of those genitals you hate so MUCH that you hate anyone who likes them and anyone who owns a pair themselves? I really need some ADVICE here.
But he does keep claiming he loves me, I just believe it’s not possible to love someone when you have a horrible dirty fetish.

Answers and Views:

Answer by Dianne L
I’d probably tell them, ‘I don’t know if I’ve been clear enough with you. I don’t want to have a d*ck. I now realize that you like my d*ck, and while I’m flattered, I don’t. I need you to understand that I feel I should have been born as a girl, not a guy.’

Answer by M. T. Void
i suppose i would realize that early on in the relationship:

but i like mine & can’t relate to ‘hating’ them or others who have them !

Answer by Suki
It all depend son what he really loves about you. If he’s with you because he thinks your a great person then you can work through any other issues but if he’s in it for your body then you need to break up with him.

Answer by Diane M
I understand the whole “chatting” thing, as I’ve run afoul of it before, but here it’s necessary. I would personally feel more than a little betrayed. That growth between my legs is almost antithetical to my own self-image, and to find out that that’s the reason my lover is attracted to me would be a major blow. I’d end up questioning him/her and myself, and especially right now I can live without that latter.

I don’t know that that would be a reason for me to break up with them, but it would definitely be a “I need to be away from you for a few days” moment. I’d find some place to be by myself, or at least not around him/her, and think about it. It really comes down to how you feel about your lover, your relationship, and where you see it going once you have corrective surgery. Will you lover still be there for you after those parts are gone?

I feel for you, hon. I’ll be thinking about you.

Answer by Lemmi
It’s a bit too much to expect everyone to think the way you want them to think and want/like things you want them to like. Is this person good for you? Do you like him/her? Is he/she respectful to you/your needs? If so, I would try to deal. If a tranny-chaser is all he/she is, then a good idea would be to move on.

Answer by Deej
I think it’s possible to love someone and still have a fetish (I mean think about people who have a foot fetish for example. Would they only date people with nice feet? No, not if they truly loved the ones without them). Try bringing up your hatred for your genitals, and tell them that if they love you as a person they won’t show attraction only to that particular area, maybe? It is possible that he does actually love you for you, and that you’re just allowing your mind to be biased you realize?

Answer by lisa
i know im sorry but there is no easy answer being transssexual s part of you and a part that cant be done away with, the only thing you can do is to reject all things from a previous life and to become ubber girly in all aspects. but if you do you still run the risk of losing him ,kinda like you can lead a horse to water but you cant make him drink . he claims he loves you so just run with that maybe encorporate his fetish into your lifes in some way . remember part of being a woman is learning how to please your man as a woman yourself .