What enahnces the mental aspects of orgasm?

Kate: What enahnces the mental aspects of orgasm?
Women tend to be more mental when it comes to orgasm, what kinds of things help you with this? What can we do to make ourselves more in the mood?

Erotic stories?
Porn movies?
Cybersex?

Do any of these things help you? I am looking for some tips.

Answers and Views:

Answer by Zyggy
A woman’s biggest sexual organ is her brain. She has to be IN the mood, she has to be enjoying her partner, she has to feel like she has a connection. There doesn’t need to be movies, or stories, or anything else, but she has to feel like she’s wanted, and is enjoying the experience she is in. If you feel like reading some stories would get you more interested in sex, then by all means.

Answer by Miss Nikki
is it by yourself or with a partner? by yourself try stories and porno, with a partner have a parn playing in the background or conjure up an erotic fantasy

Answer by BirthDramaMamma
I like erotic stories. There are some pretty dirty ones online, but I think the best are paperback books. I really get into the stories and characters. There’s so much romance and deep longing and love, and I don’t feel cheep or dirty when I see a book on my beside table.

Answer by EROS7776
Your problem could be mental (no, you are not mental), not physical. I didn’t have an orgasm until I heard Dr. Ruth, of all people, on a talk TV show telling women about concentrating on what “he” is doing and using your mind to explore any kind of fantasy you could possibly imagine. She said to clear your mind of things of the world, kids, school, work, dishes, laundry, etc., feel what he is doing, and fantasize about the wildest sexual things you can imagine. I mean stuff you would never, if sane, ever do, like sex with women, sex in public, rape, sex with multiple partners, being tied down and masturbated by a stranger, even sex with kids or watching your mother have sex, etc. I know, sounds weird, but I put her methods to use and it took a while, but it worked, not by myself but with my dear hubby of several years.

hope this helps..