SEX!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?

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Okay so the thing is me and my boyfriend are wanting to have sex and we have a condom im just scared to death it will break. I know its not likely but what if, and even if we do have sex where would we do it at!?
Please help!

Answers and Views:

Answer by culture_killer
If you have to be sneaking around to have sex then you probably SHOULDN’T.

Answer by joie
ask him to buy a house for you.

Answer by sunshine
if you’re this unsure, don’t do it. jeez.

Answer by brooooke.
go on the pill
it gives you more protection.

Answer by AJ
Just don’t have sex. It’s as simple as that.

Answer by keithk_09
You sound really immature to be having sex.

Answer by Esmerelda
if you have aprehensions about having sex then dont do it.

Answer by autoz0mbie88
You could probably get free birth control from a teen clinic or something. Google local clinics or free birth control in your local area.
The condom will probably not break though…make sure he gets the right size and you’ll be fine.

You could do it at either your boyfriend’s house when his parents aren’t home or vice versa. Possibly a friend’s house if they’re REALLY cool lol.

Answer by Eric D
Go see a doctor. Condoms are only one of the things you can do to avoid pregnancy and STDs. You should find a doctor to get prescription for pregnancy pills. Also, your boyfriend should help pay for them as well.

Answer by Get Luce
only do it when ur prepared for the consequences.

trust me – i learnt from experience. =(

Answer by TicTacVSKitKat
If your scared about it braking then just use two (put one on then put another over it)
and do it where your both comfortable.

Answer by Yuggy2000
My friend had this dilema when she was 13, she decided not to, and a few weeks later, the relationship was over. If you and this guy have been going out for long enough (a year or so, depending on your age) then maybe you should if you feel ready.

Answer by herro rara =]
if yu are scared
DONT DO IT
it sucks the “special” out of sex, because instead of enjoying it, you are worrying.

wait til you are ready for a kid maybe??? then go fo it. If you are too afraid of it breaking, which it probably wont, then you should wait til you are ready to handle the responsibilities.

Answer by Robert M
if you are uncomfortable you should be put on birth control, Which you can do by yourself and your parents wont know, and they also normally give you condoms and the day after pill which is a last resort. and for where to do it, If it ment to happen you will find away

Answer by Nick C
ok so the condom will rip most likely if its your first time and if hes to rough other than that it wont make sure he puts it on right and i found that a car makes sex alot better only if u have some space other wise a bed would be the best place but if u cant in a house a car would be a substitute or a blanket and a pillow out on a football field

Answer by lyn
its sounds like your not ready to do it yet
save money high a motel room and tell your parents your staying at friends
go camping

Answer by Claire
Well if you are scared about the condom breaking you could go on the pill….it will stop you from becoming pregnant while you are on it! There are also other good things about it, so your parents won’t get suspicious (if you still live with them)…and its good for you in other ways

A place to do it at is different…are either of you willing to having it at your places..?? In your bedroom? If not get a hotel room, or something…dont waste you first time in a crappy place, and regret it!!

If you have more qs…dont hesitate to ask!!
GOOD LUCK! hope i helped!

Answer by Legacy
Wherever you want to (and wherever you can for that matter). Condoms break. I wouldn’t worry too much. Get the morning after pill just in case you are that scared. Just remind your boyfriend “if it feels a lot better than it did when he first penetrated, the condom broke”.

Otherwise, you can be put on the pill if you are over 16 (depends on the area you live in). You can also get a depo shot, the uva ring, the BC patch, etc. Talk to medical professional about safe sex education. Don’t listen to people who try to glorify a love onlyspiritualreligious position on sex. Your Body Your Choice!

Have fun, and be safe!

Answer by Brenda C
uhm, if you are scared to have sex, then don’t do it, that just means you are not ready yet.

Answer by Nikita1300
first of all if u don’t want to use a condom then you should make a appointment with your doctor and ask to go on the pill ut u can only do this if your 16 or over otherwise its illegal for u to have sex. and i suggest u do it in a bed like it could be your bed or his bed but make sure the house is empty like get ur parents and family to go out for a meal. then yu all set but make sure you are definitely ready for it.

hope i helped 😀

Answer by laalallalalalalalall
It is very unlikely the condom will break so don’t freak. If ur that worried go on birth control. Do it inside probably on a bed that’s what most people do. Dont be afraid if you’re that scared wait until you are completely comfortable.

Answer by Mimi
If you are 16 or older, I recommend exploring each other except performing the act requiring a condom. At anytime, ask yourself if you are ready to become a parent.

Answer by darkling
If the condom breaks or you think theres any chance of an accident with it you can get the Morning After Pill. Or it may be called emergency contraception. What it is is a larger dose of the pill. you have to take it within 72 hours of unprotected sex and the sooner you take it the better. Depending on the country you are in you can get it from the pharmacy or you may need a doctors perscription. Remember I am pretty sure the doctor is bound by confidentiality.
This will stop you getting pregnant if the condom breaks. Its not 100 percent effective but its def worth taking.
I would actually go on the pill if i were you though. Just the regular pill and use condoms as well if you really can’t afford to get pregnant. Try and have sex someplace safe. A friends place? Chip in for a motel room?

Answer by Tyrone big brains
i have had sex with about 250 girls in ten years and split a comdom once so the chance of it spliting is about 250 to 1 i guess

Answer by Insecure Genius
If you have sex and the condom breaks, you could get pregnant. Roughly 3% of the time condoms fail. Google “broken condoms” and you will see some pretty terrible stories.

Birth control pills are safer, if used properly. Really, the only way to avoid pregnancy for sure is to avoid intercourse. Stick to oral and hand stuff. It can be just as fun.

Answer by Frenzie
Well, to be on the safe side; if you’re worried – then don’t do it.

Answer by crystalicios =]
am in this problem 2 he wants too and i want oo but am scared…lol thats why i told him to wait and that if he couldnt he wouldnt really love me like he says he does….so he said he wold wait lol GOOd Luck

Answer by Kandi B~
If you have to ask this question then you are too young to have sex.
But if you must. Go to a clinic and get on birth control. Ask a female adult you trust to go with you, they might tell your parents, or better yet you tell your parents that you are interested in having sex. Hopefully your parents are open and they will do what they can to make sure that you are being safe. And they will trust you because you decided to tell them. Or they will kill your boyfriend…
Now for the where part, umm anywhere. I would not suggest doing it in a lake or river that just is nasty…
Now read the article that is in the source area so you can’t say in the future “no one told me I would get sever depression if I had sex at an early age.”
Why don’t you try masturbation?

Answer by Kangaroo
Sex sucks or get of the drugs

Answer by Ryan R
Have you done anything sexual at all so far? Maybe you should practice oral or something first. Even then, you really shouldn’t if your so unsure about it all. I think you should go and talk to someone. A nurse at your local GP or any nurse for that matter. They have all the answers and details.

Good luck either way.

And don’t make the biggest mistake of your life

*thumbs up*