Marriage??????………?

: Marriage??????………?
why is it tht most realationships and marriages dnt work out anymore? i notice every couple has serious problems alot and arnt embarrased when in public to fight or argue. and almost evryones divorcing? im in my own realatinship and we always argue alot too? why is this happening with everyone. back when my granparents were young evryone seemed happier 4 peaceful?

Answers and Views:

Answer by Ragavan
this generations were running out with full of mental stress and leading an uncomfortable life which leads to such a problems.

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Answer by s4ndr4j4n4
It’s happening simply because people have lost their communication skills. Plus people expect a lot more from marriage and their partners since your grandparents days.

Answer by Frank Farley
I think it is a trend now that is socially accepted, it would have been shunned upon years ago; the thought of getting divorced now seems natural to an arguing couple. You should always wait for the person you know you want to spend the rest of your life with before you get married.

The same trend has happened with having a child out of wedlock; nobody seems to care anymore whereas years ago it would have been seriously disapproved off.

It has a lot to do with the decline in morals and values in society.The way things are going they will only get worst, it seems as though people just do not care anymore.

Answer by Shivana
back then divorce was frowned upon. people talked a lot about anyone who had a divorce, so it was avoided a lot. people are in a rush to marry these days, they don’t take enough time to know their partner well enough, life’s much more carefree too, you don’t have to worry about world war II or anything, back then during the war you always had people who were extremely in love with each other, writing letters etc. now, there’s internet to provide people more access to cheat on, strip clubs, porn for people to be addicted to.

the media too, didn’t britney spears get married for less than a day or something?

Answer by Olayemi Bamigboye
The truth is that this generation we’re in is ‘the impatient one’
due to advanced knowledge in this our generation,people’s standard of what a relationship should be like is just too high and therefore we keep falling short of those standards resulting in divorce n breakups

Answer by savage
I think back then, women were just more inclined to hide they’re feelings. You got to remember back in your grandparents time, then man was the head of the household, and women barely had any say, and rarely spoke they’re opinions. Now a days, its not the same. There is a lot more stress today, with everyone losing they’re jobs, the budgets becoming tight. Plus alot of today’s youth are jumping into relationships at a early age and popping out kids left and right with different guys for each kid. Back in your grandparents day, that was almost even unheard of. Lot has changed, and it is expected to just get worse.

Answer by alcory11
simple…today it’s all about ‘feelings’…we even go so far as to be talking about something, say about your diet…and it’s not about what we think or know, it’s always ‘so, i FEEL that it would be good for me to eat more vegetables’ or whatever…

point is, it really kicks into high gear when it comes to relationships…it’s all about how we feel, what we sense, the ‘vibes’…and people get ‘hot’, get married, and then find out that, even for the really good marriages, the biggest portion of our time is spent with real life…paying the bills, runnign errands, taking care of the kids, the house, the lawn, whatever…not to mention, there is the onslaught of requirements to join in witht he wife or hubby for this or that, the kids’ activities to be there for, and it goes on and on…so we pass right on by the idea of actually knowing ourselves, what we like and want and dream about…and we pass by finding out these things about the ‘one who really makes me feel it’…we don’t get settled with the idea of personal honesty and reliability, nor do we take time to know how our ‘hot sweetie’ is when it comes to these things…

i mean…he/she makes you/me FEEL!!…and we get together, move in together, marry maybe, whatever…and THEN we start getting the daily dose of real life and the real person he/she is…

see? emotions without intelligence and understanding are not just dangerous, they are unreliable, misleading, and almost totally useless in finding ‘our soulmate’…yes, feelings, emotions, are important, but only in sorting through the people who are really good with us in the first place…

most people just keep right on getting the whole thing backward at best, but in my opinion, most of them actually never really get around to any intelligent handling of making friends and relationships of any kind…if feels good, so just do it, right?

Answer by Ricardo
People had no choice back then. Now there are choices.