LGBT: Why didn’t I think of it before – sex, whether it’s for the heck or actually “making love”?

Daoie: LGBT: Why didn’t I think of it before – sex, whether it’s for the heck or actually “making love”?
So, I’ve finished watching “Zack and Miri Make a Porno” earlier. It’s not too explicit, and it’s more of a comedy than porn movie. I actually liked it, and no, not because of the nudity, but because of the moral behind the whole film.

It’s about two friends being in love, and not knowing whether they should f*ck or not for the porno they’re making because it’ll ruin their friendship.

It also brought up the idea about pity sex and actual love making. What’s the difference? And, if there is a difference, how do you know when which is which?

Feel free to comment about pity sex, actual love making, and the whole friendship changing into the real deal thing.

Thanks in advance.
(Sorry, flight crashing & drowning nightmares have gotten to me. Insomnia added to the duo.)

P.S. Question partly inspired by Bri.
Edit: I’ve never made love. Sad. =(

Answers and Views:

Answer by Jay N
yea that movie was good and hella funny

Answer by xJenniferx
Pity sex is when you really don’t want to have sex with them. You’re pretty much like, “Let’s get this over with so I can go home.”
Actual love making takes time and is very passionate.

Some friendships do turn into a real relationship, but so many are scared because of the risks of breaking up and thus ruining their friendship.

Answer by Ryan
it has to mean something. whenever the mood is set then yeah its love making. but if you just do it out of no where for no reason at all then its worthless.

Answer by ArtisticEye
To answer your question, I believe that pity sex is when someone just f*cks you becuase they feel sorry for you and you can usually tell becuase they don’t act as enthusiastic during and after. Love making is more than that. When you are truely making love with someone you are totally falling for than you feel it. You just know that it means something more than just having sex. Instead of just sex it’s a deeply saticfying and purely pleasurable experience. No matter weather its between a woman man or a woman and woman or a man and man. Trust me, you’ll know when it is actual love making or weather it’s pity sex.

Answer by RainBoW
pity sex… I had sex with this guy because he really liked me… and at the same time i wanted to know if im fully a lesbian cuz im a virgin to guys for 21 years and determined to know.

love making is when you have sex with a person u really love or like, u guys don’t just fk, u guys actually kiss and want to hold each other tight and the emotions run high.

just sex – is u just do it because ur drunk or ur horny and u just want something hot.

the difference is obvious, the other two u dont love them, love making is when u do it with someone u like or love.

Friendship changing.
I used to love my best friend a lot. and so we tried it with each other, she was my first and i was hers. It felt good and exciting at first, no string attached but then i started to love her too much, got really jealous when i know her bf have sex with her. and we argued a lot afterward cuz i was getting jealous and she had to struggle between a boyfriend and a best friend. I have to struggle with the fact that she has a bf… and i love her and she was hurting me without knowing it. she wanted both but it was too greedy and i didn’t like the sharing part. I was super depressed but i moved on.

Answer by Jenn
well pity sex is kind of sad in feeling to one person. its a strong feeling to have and some mistake it for real liking. either way its still a pretty one sided deal…plus usually afterwords the person who is pitying the other probably feels remorse somewhat after or awkwardness. making love is different because both are engaged in it and its more of a soul connection i feel during. a happiness and a very serene feeling to it afterwords too…haven’t u ever made love?…if u have u can automatically feel the difference between just buddies who do eachother or more.
that movie was funny though.
its a very emotional thing to make love, especially for a woman.
as for the friendship deal i can understand it but in a way i dont just because i dont understand the logic somewhat. even if ur best friends and u care for him deeply as a friend, its still no excuse to deny feelings u have for eachother. confessing dosn’t necessarily mean the end of a friendship if they turn u down. sure it will be wierd for a bit, but after a while it gets better. i just think that instead of putting urself though such torture of not letting it out in the open, just say it and get it over with so that u can either feel very happy if its reciprocated or very sad and down if its a no thanks, lets just be friends deal…i think anyone who runs away from their friend after that kind of deal has more issues than just the awkwardness they feel. if u feel ur grown up enough to have those types of possible relationship, then ur grown up enough to understand confessions are hard and heart felt to say. that its so childish to run away from those types of problems…i think the only time u should run for the woods is when the confessor goes crazy stalker on u.

Answer by Femme fatale
“Pity sex” I would consider it, as a one night stand or f*ck and forget. Making love is usually when two people are strongly emotionally connected to each other.

Tip: For your Insomnia…Sit on your bed and meditate, it doesn’t matter what religion your are. just sit with your legs crossed and close your eyes…listen to soft music or something which is boring.

Answer by Chivalry Class
I never watch that one before, so I don’t know about it.

I believe you can tell the difference between having sex and love making. The feelings are different. Even old virgin like me knows. I think watching movies and dramas can learn that too.

Since people already answer, I will just thumb them up and give a song.

Answer by Hotch
I think pity sex rules, I’d never get laid otherwise XD