Is it possible to maintain a relationship with a family member who is gay and cheated on your blood relative?

♥ Animal Luvr ♥: Is it possible to maintain a relationship with a family member who is gay and cheated on your blood relative?
This family member is no longer a family member, because the situation ended in inevitable divorce. This is because he is not blood related to me, he was married to my family member, blood related. He cheated with many, many, many men over 30 years.

However this person has been in my family for 30 years, it’s hard just to walk away, but the pain it caused my blood relative makes it impossible to keep a decent relationship with both of them around.

I don’t know what to do.

Advice?

Answers and Views:

Answer by sting
If you think he’s a good person DESPITE the cheating, then I don’t understand why you have to take sides. You can be friendly to everyone without others feeling “betrayed”. If they do, then it’s their problem. Friendships and familial ties are not exclusive.

HOWEVER, I do not find cheating justified because of his homosexuality and I’m saying that as a gay male. 30 years of marriage was a mistake. If he were honest and secure, he would have come out and told everyone the truth instead of cheating.

Answer by Pixie Chick
Outside of this person being gay and cheating on your blood relative, what kind of person is he? Do you admire him, do you think that he is a good person despite his downfall. Have you used him as a resource for comfort, reassurance, knowledge, support, is he smart, witty and fun to be around? Do you appreciate him because of his character, his nature? He obviously made a bad decision 30yrs ago, but tried to play the role and was obviously unsuccessful and hurtful at the same time. Homosexuality is becoming more and more acceptable, but 30yrs ago, it was a ticket to a lonely life, he made a bad choice, tried to fit in and it was not him. I’m very sure that your blood relative was very aware of this and was in denial. It takes two to end a relationship as well as start one. Blood is thicker than water, but sometimes you need to bleed to heal. You be the judge.