Is it okay for sexual intercourse to better a relationship?

Yo!: Is it okay for sexual intercourse to better a relationship?
Because me and my girlfriend had a sexual encounter and I love her more now, and I don’t want to just love her for the sex, because I have a lot of feelings for her. I don’t just meet up with her to get sexual, I meet up with her to be with her. But we did sexual things and I got closer to her. Is this normal? Does this mean that I only want her for the sex?

Answers and Views:

Answer by Allie
Yeah! Its normal. And no, it doesnt mean you only want her for sex. If you still meet up with her for regular fun, not sex, then youre okay.

Answer by kiss4u
Sex is best with the one you love.

Answer by Thardus
It’s possible that because you like sex (hey, we all do) and because you currently associate the pleasures of sex with your girlfriend, that in some sense you do only want her for the sex. I think sex can indeed strengthen a relationship. However, I think a lot has to come before the sex comes in a relationship. I would go as far to say it is necessary to not only get engaged but also get married before engaging in sex. This is not simply a religious belief; of course I would want to have sex sooner. But what with 50% or more of marriages ending in divorce, I know that there has to be more there than just sex, or just love, or just __________ (fill in the blank).

One aspect of a healthy relationship is not enough. You really need to be able to love her emotionally, mentally and even what her beliefs are (spiritually) before you should love her sexually. Again, we all want sex. Now that you’ve had it, it is only natural to want more. But if you can save yourself for marriage, it shows that you were really ready for her, and will be truly committed to her. Anyone can commit their bodies to each other-it’s called casual sex. But for it to really mean something, it requires a more refining commitment. That can only come through marriage.

Hope that helps!