I’m 32 weeks pregnant, 20 years old, single and worried that I won’t “fall in love” with my baby. Normal?

Sara: I’m 32 weeks pregnant, 20 years old, single and worried that I won’t “fall in love” with my baby. Normal?
I think it’s because I’m just really scared and still immature and still dealing with the fact that I’m sacrificing my youth for this child, or maybe I’m just worrying too much, but I hope that when he comes out I “fall in love” like other moms do.

Can I just get some stories or experiences of Moms that may have felt kind of disconnected with their baby when they were pregnant or unsure of how they would feel after they had their baby?

Please don’t judge me, I’m just being real and honest here and I’m not a bad person, I’m just human.

Answers and Views:

Answer by mommy of twin girls
If you have the ability to love someone (other than yourself) then you will love your child.

Answer by robert rodgers
If everyone loved their children there would be no need for child protective services, got to have some bad parents. So don’t worry it is at least some what normal, remember there is always adoption since you waited to long for an abortion.

Answer by liz
Oh please dont worry I felt exactly the same as you, I had already had my son after 6 years of fertility tests and tears every month, then I got pregnant again naturally and I was in complete denial. How could I possibly love this baby as much as my son?
Rest assured what you are feeling is perfectly, perfectly natural and normal. You recognise that your life will change totally and you are wondering if you will cope. The answer is yes of course, every mother has gone through some emotion or other regarding their life and their new baby so you are not alone.
Believe me once they place your baby in your arms after giving birth you will feel nothing but overwhelming love. Yes you will be scared, I cried myself stupid once I brought my son home as I realised I was totally alone and this innocent fragile creature relied on me entirely for his existence.
You will cope, we all do and you will be a wonderful mum.
Congratulations on your impending delivery, believe me every twinge or pain you feel will be worth it once you set eyes on your baby.
Lots of love and remember a baby changes the status of everyone in your family, think about it, you are the most important person in your baby’s life and you wont let anyone down.
Good luck xxx

Answer by minimouse68
I was 29 and had been married for years…..and still felt exactly the same way. Its scary to know that youre bringing a new life into the world, I think just about every expecting woman feels pretty much the same. Dont worry, you will be fine. Just like the vast majority of the rest of us are when our little ones finally enter the world. Best wishes to you and your baby, I hope your lives together are full of love and joy.

Answer by ginger
of course you will love your baby. if i’m honest i never got that “rush of love” with my first but i think that was because he had a traumatic birth and he was in an incubator and i couldnt pick him up, but by the time i left hospital it was there. with my second i was worried that i wouldnt have enough to give because my love for my first was so all consuming then, i couldnt imagine that i could love that much again. i have 3 boys now, all teenagers and all loved fully. you will be fine.

Answer by Sammyjo Burton
oh hunni i wouldn’t worry to much try not think like that it might be because ur not with the baby’s dad. but when u hold your baby and look at it ur fall in love like u never loved before u will die for this baby trust u will feel it soon good luck xxx