How to Get my brother to stop hurting the dog?

archon2245: How to Get my brother to stop hurting the dog?
My brother is 16 he has Adhd, aspergers, and bipolar. He grabs the dogs nose, pinches it, and picks him up roughly. He also slaps my dogs ribs hard so that he coughs. How do i get him to stop this without having to send my dog away?

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Answer by Katie Y
hide the dog from your bro. or just yell at your broo to stop.

Answer by moecartman
get a meaner dog!

Answer by peppergurt
put a gun to his head and say “Do it again, and I’ll pop you like the lil’ bit c h you are.”

Answer by Betsy S
Find a safe home for the dog..

Answer by Art3Zero
wow thats really fucked up. poor dog. send your brother away, how about that?

Answer by Diamond M
call the cops to scare him so he wont do it again.

Answer by G L
everytime he does something to your dog, do the same thing back to him, but not as hard

Answer by eloncollie
talk to your parents about it. think about the dog’s best interests. perhaps keeping them in separate environments…

Answer by Beautiful Mind
Keep them in a different room from eachother. Like keeping the dog in the basement maybe?

Answer by Tommy J
You could threaten to call the police because he could get fined for animal abuse.

Answer by .
You need to get the dog away from your brother. As hard as it is for you the dog has to go. If your brother can not be controlled it is far too cruel to keep the dog.

Sorry for you and the dog.

Answer by picklestix7866
Put a shock collar on your brother. LOL. I’m just kidding

But seriously, if he is really hurting your dog, I don’t know if there is anything you can do. It might be better to find the dog a new home. Maybe one of your friends could take it. That way you could still see it.

Answer by Mike
get rid of the dog, seriously, a dog cant live with a kid like that

Answer by yngmama
this is probably a better question for his psychologist rather than the dog section of answers website!

imo, the dog needs to live somewhere else, away from mentally ill ppl who dont know any better.

Answer by skater_808
hit him back and see how he likes it.

Answer by bouncy_rocks
I understand that your brother has issues, and I”m sorry for that…but the dog shouldn’t be mistreated, no matter what the reason.

It sounds like you love the dog…and if you do…the best thing is to get the dog to a different home where he doesn’t have to be subjected to this.

I don’t mean to be harsh…but animals rely on their people so you have to do what’s right…even if it’s hard.

Best of luck.

Answer by Miss_Sable
Sounds like you should report him for animal cruelty. Using his disabilities as an excuse is not the right thing to do. Does he do the same things to people? Probably not, he knows that is wrong.
If he wont stop then you will have to send the dog away, it is the most humane thing to do for the dog.

Answer by scoobs
If he has Aspergers, he needs a clear, black-and-white consequence for hitting the dog and you need to ALWAYS follow through with it. So let’s say he loves video games. Tell him that if he hurts the dog, no video games for 3 days. And follow through on it.

Answer by renee k
you need to speak to your parents and the doctors so they can explain that its cruel and the dog may hurt him.

Answer by horse crazed girl
talk to him explain it , maybe show him how much it hurts

Answer by Forsaken
1) Crate the dog when you aren’t around. Place the crate somewhere safe and secured.
2) When you are around run interference. Don’t leave the dog unattended with your brother.
3) Wait it out and do what you can to protect the dog.

The best thing is to re-home the dog though.

Answer by Sabrina K
Whip your brothers A$ $ ! Hurting animals is like hurting a child, they have no defense. He is a bully and that depression crap isn’t gonna cut it, he knows what he is doing.
Pinch his nose really hard when he is relaxing watching TV, tell him now he knows what the dog feels like.
Animals are not toys or there for his abuse, IT MUST STOP.
Also tell who ever prescribes his meds what he is doing. Hurting the animal is not a symptom of depression, ADHD, or Aspergers.

Answer by jonathan o
Hit him back.

Answer by ichigo kurasaki
you should hide your dog or keep it some were safe outside

Answer by Shelby
my brother has all of those simptoms as yours except he has aspergers worse and cannot talk at all or understand.. hes almost 14, i would say… to show your brother that its wrong to do it, and tell him no and things, or use some words he would know, and just keep doing things to show him that its wrong, my brother was like that except he would hit objects, such as tv’s and the computer and such, but he wouldnt be playing on it just come up and whack it, we just kept saying stuff like no in a mean voice (since he cant understand but he understands no) and he eventually got the hang of it, or you grab his arms like his hands so he cant hit it and try to get him occupied with something else.. thats just my advice, hope it works for you!

Answer by Starving Artist
Keep your Brother away from the dog and give it to a better home

Answer by misstraceyrick
Get the dog out of the house and away from your brother – he’s capable of killing something smaller than himself- ie:- your dog!!! However much it hurts you and the rest of your family – give your dog to a family that can ensure its safety – yours cannot!!! I don’t mean to be horrid mate but you know as well as i do what your brother is capable of? For your dogs sake – give it away eh?

Answer by geeetarem21
I think you should talk to your parents about it. Obviously, your brother needs to be spoken to and possibly given consequences for these actions. He needs to understand that it is cruel to treat the dog this way. Often, people with Asperger’s do not understand the social or emotional implications of their actions. He may need to be taught these things explicitly even though it seems to us that treating an dog this way is obviously wrong. In any case, your parents need to know that you are concerned. Hopefully, you can all come up with a plan to keep the dog safe and not have to find a new home.

Answer by liveyourlife`
I’m very sorry, but in this situation, you need to think about what’s best for your dog, and not what you want. Your home isn’t a safe environment, due to your brother’s conditions. It’s best to find your dog a new home. Honestly, your brother could unintentionally seriously injure your dog, or worse, kill him. Please, do what’s best for your dog and find him a new home.

Answer by mcdannells
Hello,
You parents think this is acceptable behavior??
All these symptoms you brother has are part of aspergers, one of my son has it too and never does my son treat any of our many critters like this!
Until your parents step in sorry to say but there is nothing you can do other then telling you parents, if they do not care nothing is going to stop this behavior but the law stepping in for being cruel to a animals (proven fact that cereal killers start on critters fist then move to people). This is something this kid should have been taught a long time ago not to do!
Some people with such kids as ours let them get away with everything and feel sorry for them for they have a disabilitating condition…..these kids need guidance like every other kid.
If your parents do not care please get rid of all the critter you have for there safety. ,also tell your bothers mental health doctors what he is doing. If your brother is on all the mental drugs for his condition he may be so drugged up he does not realize what he is doing is hurtful.

Answer by bookmom
none of your brother’s health problems explains this behavior. your parents need to intervene because this is abuse and could be a sign that your brother has some serious issues.

Answer by Connie V
At the age of 16, no matter what his afflictions, he should no better. From your medical description of him it sounds like he’s got alot on his plate. Which means that you probably do to. It sounds like he has no remorse (aspergers) for others, so I would think having a dog or any helpless creature around him would be a bad idea. As hard as it is to get another home for your dog, its more realistic than thinking that you could talk your parents into finding another home for your brother. Sorry I really hope that you can find some other use-full help.

Answer by 😉
Do your parents know this? Do they do anything about it?
You really should tell your teacher at school, your doctor, your pastor or a coach. What your brother is doing is very wrong, not just for the dog, but because young men who do this will someday do it to their own wives or children. Your brother needs intensive help. If your parents cannot control him, he needs intervention from child services before he reaches adulthood and ends up in prison.
I’m so sorry.

Answer by •Çøšmø•
I know this may be very hard for you to hear but, you have to do what you have to do. Your dog is at risk for being killed where he is now. You need to find the dog a new home where he will be safe.
Please do not blame your brother, he cannot help himself or control his actions.
Please find the dog a new home where he will feel safe and loved.
Even if you place the dog in another family members home such as an aunt, uncle, or grandmother, or grandfather. Or maybe a friends house. This way the dog will be safe and you will still be able to see the dog.
Again I am very sorry but, I wouldn’t keep the dog, I would give the dog up so it would be safe.

Answer by reefshadow
God people, his brother is mentally ill, not a criminal. Most likely his behavior can’t be helped, and most likely his brother loves him. Why would you recommend hitting a handicapped person who has no impulse control?

That said- Is this happening because the dog is behaving in a manner your brother doesn’t like? Is it jumping on him/getting on him/licking him and is this triggering his behavior? If the answer is yes, I would suggest better obedience training for the dog. If the answer is no, then I would suggest you either find a way to seperate them 24/7 unless supervised, or find the dog a new home, because being abused OR seperated from the familiy unit really isn’t fair for any dog.

I wouldn’t know how you could control or modify your brother’s behavior. Like I said, he is mentally handicapped and impulse control is obviously very poor. If he has a therapist or special needs teacher, you could talk to them and see what they suggest, they may have some very good ideas!

Answer by cloudy
you should talk to your parents. maybe a counselor could get through to your brother. in the meantime try to keep the poor dog out of his reach. if you can’t find a way, as sad as it might make you, you should try to find a home for your dog, before irreversable damage is done, or your brother gets bit

Answer by sandidozer
Sit down and talk to him calmly and teach him how to treat the dog. Get him involved in training the dog so he feels like it is his dog. I hope this will help him care for the dog and not hit him anymore.